I have found the perfect girl but she has a boyfriend - help

[Alexander1993]

I met a girl on Thursday at an event. I saw her looking at me and eventually I got talking to her. Asked her for a business card but she didn't have any so she gave me her number instead. She's new to my city so I said I would show her round. She asked me to go for a drink with her after the event and we did. We then arranged to do something together on Saturday (yesterday).

Saturday came and we met for drinks at 7pm. We had dinner in a fancy restaurant then went for a romantic walk then got more drinks at a bar. Our date ended at 1:30am.

We have the exact same sense of life and she's amazing and I think she really likes me too: she is so complimentary (compliments my appearance, intellect, self-esteem, ideas etc) and I have noticed that she often looks at my body.

However she mentioned that she has a boyfriend who she has been with for two years (he does not live in the same country as she and I) but described the past two years of her life as "chaotic" as she has been travelling the world and they don't always see each other.

She wants to do loads of different things with me - more restaurants, go to events together, for me to show her different things etc. The chemistry between us is unbelievable.

If she hadn't told me that she had a boyfriend, which confused me, I would have kissed her on our date. I didn't. I am seeing her tomorrow evening as I said I would take her along to an event and dinner I am going to.

What do you think is going on in her head? I will be asking her tomorrow evening as I am not going to waste my energy thinking about it nor will I allow myself to fall for someone who I won't end up with.

I must stress just how amazing our chemistry is -- especially intellectual. We have the exact same sense of life. I have been looking for this for so long. Could it be that she has a comfortable relationship with someone but she has found someone who is her ideal (i.e. me)? She may be my ideal.

I was very surprised when she told me she had a boyfriend. She also said that, when commenting on a conversation we were having, that her boyfriend would love the topic but that she is "glad he is not here". I of course would not want to partake in any cheating at all.

Any advice/comments are most welcome!

op not everyone you meet has to be a potential partner by the way.

This is the 3rd woman you've posted about in as many months.

I really doubt the connection is as amazing as you think.

Leave her alone. She has a boyfriend. She told you about him. She's not interested in you in that way.

Keep taking the meds @Alexander1993

She is fickle and a cheat. What's so appealing about that type of character? Not exactly 'perfect', is it? I suppose you'll do to pass the times when she can't see or be with her boyfriend, I bet you end up spending money too. You're a mug if you get involved but I suppose love isn't sensible is it.

Someone, somewhere will be saying its ok to have friends of the opposite sex no need for her boyfriend to think anything of it & if he does, he's 'insecure'😂. So you could hang on in the friendzone in hope if you have a lot of time on your hands

'Chemistry' = hormones

Did she pay her share of the meal and other expenses?

So gym girl was 'based on superficial things' - but this is based on knowing someone for all of, ooooh, a few hours total time spent together?

What could possibly go wrong?

"Alexander you sound juvenile"

Well if he's interested in girls (not women) I bloody well hope so. Would be totally creepy otherwise.

“All cheaters have amazing chemistry. It's how they get gullible people to fall for their cheating arses.”

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