How often do you argue?

[trustpilot]

Just that really.

Rarely.
We don’t argue in front of our dc.
We had a disagreement two days ago about painting walls. Dh wanted to use up paint he had (basically any old crap colour) to freshen up the walls. But, the colours didn’t match. So after a tussle in the garage about cheap crap paint, my final parting words were ‘you know as much about interior design as I know about cricket!’ It worked as now the room is painted white like I said it should be.
Yeah, our spats our boring 😂

We don’t really. I would say I’m the more firey one, will say when I’m annoyed about something then get over it. DH is more chilled, less seems to annoy him and although he’s not a pushover and will tell me if he thinks I’m wrong, he’s less confrontational and claims I don’t do much to annoy him.
Can’t even remember what we actually argued over last.

Very rarely nowadays. Used to argue more often when DCs were young. Apart from DC issues the worst arguments were over money - she is a spender I am a saver. Together 30 years, married 27.

Probably bicker over something stupid once a week at worst and have a bigger argument about 2-3 times a year? We're both rather stubborn and hot-headed so we clash. He's extremely controlled by his stomach so if he's hungry, he's grumpy. Blood BIL and SIL are the same, they're a nightmare

Every day this week. I've realised that life is too short and ignoring snide remarks etc seems to be working. I think he was a mummy's boy and his spoilt behaviour has to stop at 42 because I've had enough.

Probably daily, bickering. Actual rows, maybe once a month?

Proper arguments? 2 in our whole relationship
General bickering? Usually not often at all but now that I'm heavily pregnant and super hormonal, a couple of times a week maybe lol

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We hardly ever argue & we never row. We bicker, though, always over stupid stuff that we resolve quickly. Together over 30 years now.

We’ll have an argument a couple of times a year maybe.

Sometimes I get irritated by silly things, so might be a bit snappy, but it’s over in a second and DH is too chilled for it to turn into an argument.

When we do argue properly, it’s luckily never been about anything serious...usually something stupid like DH not doing the dishes or me getting chocolate on his car seat lol.

Proper arguments...once in our entire relationship. Grumpy at each other maybe 5min a fortnight/month. It took me a long time to find such a decent man, I know that things haven’t been done to intentionally annoy me - so we can talk calmly about differences of opinion.

Bicker on average once a fortnight usually involves us driving somewhere new tbh 🤣

Proper arguments only when DH has done something to really upset me and pretends nothing is wrong less than once a year. Actually it's not a row either its him being super super nice rather than just talking the issue over with me and taking responsibility for his part in it

Big rows a handful in 20 years and mostly in the first few years but I am for far more reasonable these days

Maybe once a year. We bicker a fair bit though and that is very light hearted.

It got a lot more common as I decided to stop placating him. So maybe 1 time a day during the week, 3 times when I was not working.

Previous ex: didn't argue at all. Everything was just stuffed down into lethal packets of passive aggression.

Can't decide what is "right". We bicker/argue over silly silly things. Prob is OH can't put it aside and it turns into a day or two's atmosphere which just seems like such a waste. Only option I feel will prevent this is to NEVER argue or bicker. But doesn't this just lead to lack of communication and resentment? Swallowing down annoyances?

Hmmm the atmosphere is not ok and needs resolving it isn't healthy.

DH used to sulk, I didn't panda to it and told him to grow up and tell me what was wrong as I wasn't a mind reader!

Always placating someone is never going to work...

It's not an atmosphere of blame. He is just so upset that we've argued and almost seems to grieve. Analyses things to death and try's to come up with ways to ensure prevention in future.

Well yeah of course it will.

What is the dynamic between his parents?

Perfect! I did raise this recently actually, that it's normal for couples to argue from time to time and that it doesn't mean there's anything fundamentally wrong.

As in of course his mum and dad also argue.

Rows - probably once a month. When my tolerance disappears and he gets it both barrels if he's been winding me up (he has been known to be goady when he knows I'll react) Usually linked to hormonal changes.

Bickering - A few times a week if that.

We've been together a long time (over 20 years), we adore each other. We're both very opinionated with different opinions 😂

@WizbetisaNizbet you see to me that sounds totally normal and similar to us. It does take two to make this happen too although I understand the hormonal links!
He doesn't feel a relationship is sustainable if you argue or bicker. I feel it's real life.
I genuinely feel like saying to him this morning that I will make a vow never to take part in an argument with him ever again and, if it happens, we will just go our separate ways. Hefty promise I know, but feels like what he wants

@trustpilot I completely understand. My husband can be quite overly sensitive and lack confidence in himself. So he feels that when we row it means more than it actually is.

@trustpilot I forgot to add that I think the occasional row or bicker is healthy in a relationship. It clears the air. We're not in that first flush of love stage anymore, where you don't want to upset the other person. It's not possible to stay like that in real life. Different factors change relationships, those rose tinted glasses disappear and reality sets in. We love each other deeply, we laugh, we joke, we have fun. We're not the same people we were when we got together, we're older and wiser possibly more cynical.

We've had one argument in 6 years. If you class argument as raised voices and the need for apologies and resolution.

However, we do disagree quite a bit so at least a couple of times a month.

I'm a ratty cow monthly due to hormones but hoping starting hrt will help with that. Luckily he has the skin of a rhinoceros and when I apologise for being stroppy , he generally says he hasn't noticed!! Lol.