How often do you argue?

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Just that really.

EVERY BLOODY DAY!!!

This is after 29 years of marriage and exactly the same things ANNOY me - they used to irritate but I'm sodding pissed off with them now...

I feel better for that rant.

We bicker frequently, about silly things that are easily resolved like who "forgot" to wash up or whose turn it is to take the bins out, but it's always forgotten in moments.

Actual rows, we used to row more when we first moved in together as we'd both lived alone until that point and were maybe a little set in our ways! It took me a while to learn to pick my battles. Now, that often, maybe every few months

We have been together 2 years, we don’t bicker and have had 2 arguments - one was copious amounts of alcohol which was resolved by a good nights sleep, a bacon sandwich and sheepish apologies on both sides, the other was Asda on Christmas Eve which I think hardly counts! Solved by the time we got home and realised how daft we were being.

My previous relationship was volatile and I hated it, I was so angry all the time that I thought that I was incapable of normal human responses - turns out, I was unhappy and when I am not, I am quite chilled out! Shame it took me until nearly 40 to realise that.

He gets upset about arguing and your answer is to say (it's how he'll interpret it) that you'll leave if he disagrees with you about anything ever again?

I think his description of that could be 'I'm walking on eggshells now. If I disagree with her about anything, she'll leave. I wanted to find ways to stop arguing and talk instead to avoid it happening again, but now, I can't say a thing in case it causes an argument'.

We disagree. We've had emotional conversations at stupid o'clock. Our conversations don't end with anybody 'winning', because that's not what it's about - it's about communicating.

Winning is what we do when watching Only Connect or University Challenge. And DP's victory lap of the garden when he answered more questions than me was bloody hilarious.

Op. He's not my dh's brother is he . I can totally sympathise about the atmosphere and stress it causes.I've just caught up on all the other replies and thinking shit maybe he is a dick as I thought, not depressed.

Not often. Maybe once in every 6 months, if that.

How long have you been together? My OH was exactly as you described for the first 2-3 years. He'd be mortified if we even bickered. He said his parents never once argued when I asked about it. When we witnessed friends arguing he'd be utterly horrified. 7 years later and we barely go a day without rowing. I do think we row more than is healthy because he can not make light of a row, if you understand. He doesn't get jokey digs to diffuse irritation, so every disagreement escalates.

Hardly ever. In fact, I can't think of a single time we've ever had a proper, full on, shouting the house down row.

We bicker every now & again and that's usually down to me getting narky at a particular time of the month. Usually though I look at him, he looks at me and I can't help but bloody giggle, even if I'm annoyed, and it diffuses the tension. If that doesn't happen then we just say our sorries later on and that's it - no great discussion needed because it's usually about stupid shit like who forgot to refill the jug last time they filled the kettle or who has been to the bin most times today. The agonising over every little bicker would properly do my tits in. I couldn't live like that!

We bicker quite a lot. But it's not a long drawn out thing and we can be fine five mins later. Big arguments are pretty rare.

I must admit, a lot of things tend to irritate me and I'm quite vocal about it, so I probably rant more to my husband, rather than at him!

Every time we talk.

Rarely. Once or twice a year maybe.

Occasionally because we’re both headstrong and have equality but when we talk it through there’s usually something else such as work stress or tiredness etc. that is underlying cause. It never lasts long and is about silly things like opening the window when I’m cooking and that letting insects in.
We laugh far more than we argue though.

I can't even remember the last time we had an argument.
Been together 10 years.

It sounds from the comments here (generalisation), that women are more fiery and pick fights, because they find behaviours irritating. Men are more likely to go silent to avoid saying the wrong thing which many women find irritating in it's own right.
I don't like it when women name call and hurl insults at their partner, (recent thread about calling your husband by his father or mother's name to teach him a lesson). It was surprisingly common according to the thread. Lots of advice recently on threads from posters suggesting they let their partners have it with both barrels (horrible expression). I know it would be regarded on here as abusive if a man did that to his wife.
I heard an article on woman's hour a couple of years ago from The Tavistock Clinic about the way men and women argue which claimed many men felt they did not have a voice and just took abuse from their partners.
Thankfully, lots of posters agree about how distasteful it is to call someone a 'Mummy's boy'. A nasty abusive term that manages to blame another woman for a perceived wrong from her husband.

Few weeks in (hardly a celebration I know) and no arguments been had. We've been annoyed with each other and chose to just know that that's ok and move on quickly or eventually.
My promise of not arguing again wasn't a threat, at least not to him. I'm vowing to keep my arguments as healthy debates and the odd stupid quarrel that doesn't escalate