Right, I shall try to be brief. I know the answer really, but with no one to talk to irl I'm feeling very isolated.
Half term holiday this week. I'm off work. Partner isn't, but was working less to spend time with me and DS(16 months). He has a history of drinking issues which have been up and down over the last year.
Friday he came home, having popped for one (three) on this way back from work and was acting really weird. When I asked him what was wrong he acted even more shifty. He "popped out to the shops" came home 4 hours later saying he'd "fucked up" turns out he'd gambled his whole wage packet. Leaving him/us with £500 left for the month. I could barely speak to him. He went to the spare room and I went to sleep. He came running in at 3am saying that he had won all the money back.
Obviously that made no difference to the point of my upset- which was that my hitherto annoying alcoholic partner was now an annoying alcoholic with a really bad gambling issue.
Spoke to him the next day. Really remorseful etc. I decide I can't throw him out as he seems really emotionally unwell. Tell him this has either got to be a springboard for change or it's the end of us. He agrees. Really shit bank holiday ensues as we have 20 pound to our name as even though he "won it all back" it wouldn't clear til Tuesday.
Tuesday comes and the money clears. I immediately pay my credit card and a couple of things that I have been needing to pay, but there's still almost 2000 in the account. I go to bed with the baby. He stays up watching tv, except he doesn't. You guessed it.... all gone- gambled almost 1400 pounds in 2 hours.
So he comes home crying in the early hours. He's really broken now, talking of suicide. He doesn't even argue when I say this is the end. But then I can't do it. I can't put a mentally unwell, penniless man on the streets. Let alone the father of my child.
Two days pass. Remorseful, budget planned so that we can just about survive on my wage. No alcohol. We've had two really nice nights with him at home playing with DS. Helping with the housework. Things that he never usually does because he's working or drunk.
He came home today saying he had extended his overdraft. And the first thing he bought was some beers. I said I wasn't happy about either, I would rather we survive on my wage than borrow money (borrow more money, we have a lot of debt)
Anyway I went to bed with baby about half 10. Just went downstairs to get baby's dummy as he had woken up and partner is passed out on sofa. Checked his phone and he's spent £20 odd pound at a local bar. No gambling. He had turned off the location tracker on his phone before heading out (I'm not a horrendous control freak for having that, he asked for it, to help us find him/each other when at festivals etc.)
I know this last situation is small. Man can't sleep, man pops out for a few beers. But that's why I needed to contextualise.
I went into work for a few hours today and hadn't realised until everyone asked "good half term?" How fucked up and alone this situation is . Anybody, any thoughts?