Please help is this wrong of me? Do I have a right to keep this baby?

[Katie321516]

Please don’t judge me or call me stupid I met this man believed every thing he said. met him on a night out spent 4 days with him. I dont know where he lives and aparently he doesnt have a phone. i had sex with him only once without protection i did get the norning after pill aftrwards. He came back a week later spent 2 days with me and i havent heard from him since that was 3 weeks ago. just found out im pregnant the morning after pill didn’t work. I want to keep the baby do I have a right to after a one night stand when he doesn’t get a say? He obviously sees me as a nothing one night stand and doesn’t care for me at all plus he has other kids would it be unfair of me to have the baby? I messaged his best friend telling him the news so sure it will get back to him I can only imagine as I don’t know but I assume he’d feel angry and like he wished he’d never had sex with me and see it as a huge mistake and would probably tell me he wants me to have an abortion. Should I consider his feelings or just do what I want to do I’m so confused.

If you are going to shag random people, you need to own it and be more proactive. “Getting carried away” is no excuse. I’m not judging you in the slightest for having sex with whom ever you want to, but you have to be prepared for the consequences. Shagging anyone without a condom is playing Russian roulette with your health.

The baby is inside your body, of course it's your decision!

@Bluntness100 She could have been away on a trip.

But the wife and his other children deserve to know what's going on

Hell no! Supposing they exist, why destroy that family?

Hell no! Supposing they exist, why destroy that family?

He did that, not the OP. Why should her baby be a dirty little secret?

What the actual fuck?

I think mumwon was referring to the morning after pill hasn’t worked, so there could be harm to the foetus. Therefore the OP needs advice about this and it could help her decide whether to terminate or not.

Hell no! Supposing they exist, why destroy that family?

That's all down to him and his actions. His wife has a right to know that he has fathered another child who will be legally entitled to financial support and may want a relationship with its father. The children have a right to know they have a half-sibling.

This child, assuming the OP has it, will be around for a long, long time. It will have rights both legally and morally. Expecting the OP to keep it secret is completely unfair and frankly I think it's disgusting that you try and guilt trip her over the impact she might have on his family.

if you feel bad about your decision perhaps it's not the right one. Having a baby on your own is very hard. Why do you want to keep it?