Bfs ‘weird’ behaviour on holiday

[Pregnantbitscared88]

Bf is away on holiday for a week...booked a year and half ago before we were official.

They are away to an all night party capital and he hasn’t stayed out past 12 any night. Says he’s not really drinking much I don’t know I find it odd. He loves a good party and a drink. His reasoning being is that he misses me too much he just isn’t enjoying himself and the cynic in me is just automatically thinking he’s lying (exh cheated on me for 2 years with a girl he met on holiday). I’ve been argumentative with bf because I know his friends I know him they party. We had an argument before he left a he said he wouldn’t be bringing his phone out with him at nights I got annoyed at this as I’m pregnant and told him I would like to be able to reach him if needs be (I’m not near labour though) he then agreed but I’m wondering is he telling me he’s going to bed then heading out for the night argh I’ll never know just needs to vent

Tell him you are so pleased he's being careful with his spending money and look forward to him returning with a good wedge of it to put towards costs of new baby.
Be prepared for a big excuse, e.g. his mate got robbed and he's had to lend him all that cash he didn't spend

I mentioned the money aspect because that’s what I argued with him
About not that he would be partying and enjoying his holiday. Sorry if there was any confusion

I didn’t even think about the asking him how much he spent when he gets home that will reveal a lot

I think the op is assuming if her dp is going to bed early, he isn't going alone.

No I actually don’t think he’s cheating...I think he is letting on to go to bed but just staying out which is annoying because it’s a lie

He's telling you what you want to hear. He's gone with the lads to an all night party capital and you had an argument about partying! Simples.

So you'd be absolutely ok with him going out and enjoying himself and wouldn't get the hump about it at all?

If he's in Ibiza which I'm guessing he is.. he could easily spend £2500 but NOT. If he's going to bed at midnight so looks like he will be bringing plenty money back :)

How do you separate the improbable spending of £2500 from going out. That was what he was going to spend his money. To not spend the money as you demanded he can only decide not to go out.

But it’s not the point two adults about to have a child should not be arguing about ultra luxury holidays and nails if you can afford a home for that child.

You sound very very insecure.

It sounds like he's likely lying to you about how much he's drinking and how late he's staying out as you clearly don't want him out late drinking.

He probably feels like he can't win (which it sounds like he can't).

For context my husband is now on his 3rd night away with his mates and I haven't once asked him how much he's drinking or at what time he's been getting in...

Goodness me, you sound like a pair of kids bringing another one into the world. I'm sorry but you've decided to have a baby together after 15 months of seeing each other. It sounds like such a ridiculous thing to do. You don't even trust him. I'd laugh if it wasn't so dire.

He’s on the holiday so it’s a bit late to argue about it.
Let him enjoy the holiday and chat when he gets back.

£2500?? I spend half of that on 3 of us for 9 days as spending money and we live extremely well

Sounds like he was expecting to be doing a lot of coke over there?

That's over half we spent as a family of three at Disney World a few years ago including airfare and staying on site in a Disney hotel

This doesn't sound right at all. You haven't been together that long yet you are pregnant. You are planning to poom resources yet he earns less than you but with 'bigger outgoings'? WTF is he spending £2500 on with a pregnant GF at home?you don't trust him and think he's lying. Please OP be very careful about your future with this man. Dont give up work to raise his child.

We took £500 spendies for a week in Tenerife for 4 of us and it was fine!