Are you happier married?

[PenelopePink]

Just that really. I've been reading the book 'Happily Ever After' and the author argues that people are pretty much as happy married as they are single ie if you're unhappy while single you won't find marriage will be that magic ticket to happiness either, and that if you're content single you will also be content married.

I've been thinking about this a lot and think that I'm probably the same now in terms of happiness than I was before I met DH, but have also had phases in our marriage when things haven't gone well and I have been much LESS happy, and that due to my anxious attachment style I was certainly less happy when I first fell for him - I was probably happier when I wasn't interested in anyone than when we first got together and I was always anxious/waiting for messages etc.

I just wondered what other people thought?

I was very happy married. It didn't feel like much changed when we got married - we lived together, we had a child, we had entwined every aspect of our lives already. But I was happier during the years of our marriage than I had ever been. No matter what life threw at us we were a team, and we both felt glad we had got married (he used to tell me, so I know how he felt as well).

We'd both been married before and together 4 years when we married.
We had a child as well.
I didn't thing I'd feel any different, but I did.
I just felt more secure I think. It was a good feeling.
I've heard friends say this even marrying after 20 years.
It's an odd thing really.
And I love dh more as the years pass.