Day 9 no contact - Struggling!

[Unlucky2015]

Hi everyone,
So I’ve made it to day 9 no contact, I’m quite proud as the longest we’ve ever had no contact for is literally 2 and half days.
But this morning was a struggle I burst into tears for about a hour. I was very emotional. I thought it would get easier as the no contact went on but it actually seems to be getting harder.
One good thing is though as upset as I was I didn’t cave. Now to keep myself busy for the rest of the day.. or try.
Looking for a hand hold x

DD used her '30 day no contact' to make lots of great plans, and compose an amazing text telling the twit how much she had learned about him and herself, of the great plans she had made, and how she was moving forward positively.

I think it was a case of fake it til you make it - but she's well through the other side now, and in hindsight the 'no contact' was key in getting over the situation.

Stay strong! It's so so hard but like others have said, you have already done really well.

You are doing very well. It's ok to feel shit or weak. It takes time.

I know that flood of feeling that you are experiencing. That need to make contact, the pain of imagining what is happening in his life in these days of no contact. It's all ok. Let that feeling come and go. If it's really debilitating, write that letter, that email. Keep it in a folder on your phone and every time add to it. A diary/a love letter to the relationship you wanted with him/a angry tirade of abuse. Anything. Connect with him/the relationship without needing to make contact with him and all that that would bring.

Try and remember that this is quite a short time you are pushing through. In the long run, you'll look back and wonder why it seemed so hard. It will seem really insignificant- just a blip.

The guy is an irrelevance. He's just a bump in the road.

Hi thank you everyone.
It’s just really hard as all my family have fell out also at the moment so I feel so alone x

On 17th it was a month of no contact. I dream about him, feel him...
signed up on OLD just to see if he is there, he was at some point. I’m thinking he is struggling as well. But I finished it myself for him calling me “stupid” for refusing to do as I have been told, and “cheap” for not wanting to have sex.
This week was tearful for me, but I won’t text him. There were many second chances for him, I don’t think he appreciated...
I don’t think abt anybody else and crave for him deeply, but I’m also hurt that he allowed himself to call me names.

OP you can make it, just keep believing yourself. 🌹

This just happened...

🌹

Am I going mad? I’m not convinced..
Or am I just running x

Hmm. Not sure. Wait and see. It makes no difference about your relationship with him, though. He won't magically change into a decent partner.

no It doesn’t I wasn’t saying that x

I don’t really want anything to do with him anymore..

OP please wait few days and retake the test. Do not panic.

Ok thank you

Hi OP, some women cave if they think they are pregnant because they feel that somehow it will change things, or that they will need him etc. I'm glad you are still feeling determined!
As chick says, the test can wait a few days. Enjoy your break!

How are you holding up OP?