Is he into me?

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This is an add on from another thread that I had started earlier this week. Been seeing new guy (met OLD) for about 2 months, we talk/text every day etc. and get on pretty well when we're together, seem to have a similar sense of humour. He asks my opnion about things (decorating his house, clothing choices). He can be really caring and nice in some respects but (and this might say more about me than him) I sometimes think he's a bit laid back about things and I wonder he's that into me.

Was asked out by someone else during the week but I cancelled. I just wasn't really that into him and couldn't muster up the enthusiasm.

Went out with the current guy last night, had a very nice evening stayed at his but he didn't want to dtd as he had thrush. (Last time we had sex it was quite rough and I think this may have caused the thrush?) I was a bit worried that he wasn't turned on by me... He did pleasure me though and we had a nice cuddle afterwards. I was wondering about exclusivity anyway so asked him if he was seeing other people (no) and he asked me the same (no). As we slept we cuddled all night, he brought me coffee in bed, made breakfast while I was showering.

We were both rushing around this morning as we had stuff to do so no more serious chat. Would he ask me to stay if he didn't fancy me? Or pleasure me? I'm at the stage where I'd like to start seeing him a bit more, but should I do the asking or leave it to him?

He and I were both busy separately most of today and are home now. We've exchanged a couple of texts but I'm needing a bit of reassurance from him although I don't want to feel needy or that I'm focussng on negatiive things. Should I wait for him to text/call me? My ex has made me paranoid about this.

I'd be interested in other guys' opinions here too if you're around.

He had thrush? Men can’t develop thrush they can only contract it from a woman. Only women can develop thrush by disturbing the vagina ph balance.
I would be very suspect about his STI status especially if your are practicing safe sex.

Last time we had sex (last week) we dtd a few times through the night. I was a bit tender the final time which I think could trigger thrush?

I'm surprised he didn't just get some cannesten or whatever though...

Do you think it's something more serious? He didn't really want me touching him. I'm just confused as to why he'd want me to stay if that was the case. We only really arranged me to stay last night and he was up v early this morning so the perfect exuse to say he'd rather not.

Maybe a herpes flare up? Sorry but that’s what I’d think if he did that.

I would also suggest he has an STI

Men can get thrush. Look it up.

I'm pretty sure men can develop thrush from having rough sex and can also get it from the woman passing it on during sex.. So if you had rough sex then it could be because of that.. I doubt he would of mentioned it if he thought he had an sti from someone else..

Also putting the thrush aside..
To me you're both only just getting to know each other still, how he's being sounds totally normal. He probably doesn't want to lay it on too thick incase it scares you away..

I thought that too justyouraveragegirl and also would have thought he'd say, early start (we were up before 7) so best if I didn't stay, which would then mean he wouldn't have to mention anything.

Just seen your second message. Thanks, justyouraveragegirl I hope that's what it is.

If he knows he has thrush surely he has been diagnosed? Then I would expect he has purchased some medication for it? All seems a bit strange.

Both me and dp hot checked out and have been to the doctor. Because he kept getting thrush. I had mild symptoms sometimes but not all the time

We were both checked out before we slept together to. Both clear, doctor says it just happens sometimes and yes, rough sex can make it happen.

Anyway, op he sound like its heading in the right direction. Just enjoy it.

Grincheux I’m not saying men cannot get thrush but it is passed on by partners

OP if you not using condoms and had thrush then you probably got it from you. He won’t have developed it from rough sex alone.

I had recurring thrush a few years and read lots of information on the net

Well, he wasn’t very chatty past night and didn’t reply to a text I sent although he did read it. It didn’t require an answer as it was more about my day but still.

I’m confused. I wondered if he thought maybe I’d cheated, but I don’t think he would have pleasured me if that was the case. Maybe he’s just got cold feet. I got a total of 5 texts from him yesterday which is the lowest ever.

Should I call/text him or just wait to see if he gets in touch?

I would wait, it's still early days. Have you got any plans to see each other?

OP he might have had a busy day and been too tired to talk. I know I get like that often. Whatever you do, don't go seeking reassurance off him just yet as that will come across as needy.

If you haven't heard from him later today, just send him a breezy 'how was your day' kinda text. Nothing heavy. If he doesn't respond to that then just leave it. Match his effort. I've always found that in the first stages of a potential relationship the second I seem more interested than they are it falls apart from there.

Thanks Whoknew2014 and damned

I think you're both right. I know from his strava (he sent me a link to his activity) that he was "finished!" so he probably was knackered. It was a brutal day by all accounts.

Good advice about matching his effort. Our night on sat was lovely as always, he paid and as I said, despite rushing around to get ready the next morning he made us breakfast.

I have a pretty busy day myself today so won't stress too much. Thanks xx

Nickki78 then whatever research you did was wrong. Men can develop thrush.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/thrush-in-men-and-women/

It's not an exclusive women's issue, those that think it is, please look things up before spreading misinformation.

Monkey I stand by my facts . There are a few exceptions to the rule but Thush is more prominent in women than men

A healthy male with good hygiene won’t just develop thrush.

OMG there is so much ignorance here!

Men CAN get thrush and it has nothing to do with personal hygiene! It tends to be less common than women developing it HOWEVER men probably wouldn't mention it or go to the doctors if they did have it. Women get thrush and that doesn't mean they don't wash! I get thrush, doctor told me I was washing too much.

Nickki78

Monkey I stand by my facts

You can't claim opinion as fact. Medical science and factual information is basically opposite of your opinion.

Thrush is a yeast infection, men get yeast infections. it is not classified as a sexually transmitted disease, tho it can spread that way. It is not caused by poor personal hygiene, tho proper changing personal hygeine can help cure it.

Now you can stand by your opinion, that's your choice, some idiots think the world is flat, but the facts are the facts.

www.canesten.co.uk/en/female/female-knowledge/thrush-in-men/

Monkey
Why does the above article list using condoms and washing properly as a preventative measure?

Stop tell people you their idiots. You are just being RUDE.

Yeah I should have known you'd do the typical internet thing..

"Oo I've been proven wrong, best pick up on some tiny factual detail that is nothing to do with my opinion"
Cause it's funny how you pick thy but out and ignore:

Causes and symptoms of thrush in men
As with vaginal thrush, the cause of thrush in men is an overgrowth of a yeast-like fungus, Candida albicans. This fungus is naturally found on the skin of healthy people, however, when the natural balance of the skin flora is disturbed, the fungus can multiply excessively triggering the typical signs of the infection.

Oh and I'd say anyone believing the earth is flat is an idiot.

Go well. :)

I’m still not sure what is going on. I texted him yesterday and we had a few back and forth. Quite nice but no follow up. Nothing the rest of the day.

It’s just not the same level of texting or the warmth. I don’t understand why it’s gone like this so suddenly. I think I’ll let him initiate the next conversation if he wants to.

OK...you need to get some balls lady.
It is a fact that some men start to make less effort/text less etc when they think they've hooked and reeled you in.
Most definitely let him initiate next. And the time after that. And the time after that....till he realises you're NOT a done deal. Then you can go back to initiating contact on a 50/50 basis. Get busy in your own life and ignore him sometimes!
Sorry to say the way you are coming across is very needy and he will pick up on this either from little things you might say to him or body language cues when you are with him.
You are the prize and if he doesn't want you other good men will (don't say that though to him just remember it it your head). Maybe even say it to yourself in the mirror each morning - even if you don't believe it now, believe me, eventually you will.