I have no where else to turn

[Unlucky2015]

I was with someone for 7 months, our relationship was solid he built a great bond with my daughter. It was so nice to see. We had our ups and downs as everyone does but nothing major. Up until a month ago I was having a shit time and he got the runt of it. This led to him not knowing what he wanted and after loads of drama he ended it. Then kept saying he needed space timing wasn’t right etc.
Now he’s told my friend he does love me but can’t be with me after everything and it’s not his fault bla bla.
She told him out of respect he should tell me instead of leaving me hanging and he still hasn’t bothered to tell me.

Yes I agree I think today has been one of the hardest days but it’s nearly over with now, that’s how I’m looking at it anyway! And yes I shall look now, thank you.
I’m surprised I’ve done so well as longest we’ve had no contact for is literally 2 and half days ! X

You should be proud of yourself op. In a few weeks you will notice that you have more good days then bad. There’s a fab audio book called “bad boyfriends” , I found it so useful , there were lots of “omg I should have paid attention when he done that” moments x

Not saying your ex was necessarily bad but after it ended and him giving your mixed signals after which resulted in you spending the night together , it discusses reading signs and translating them effectively x

I’m still annoyed over the last bits he said to me if I’m honest like the ‘I’ve still got your number’ and the ‘just for abit until my heads straight’
He didn’t need to make any of those comments so don’t really understand why he did.
And still can’t understand why he couldn’t be man enough and tell me what he told my friend. I find it weird x

I do think that men are strange creatures (sorry to all men reading this - I know it is a big generalisation, but......) For example, my ex boyfriend with whom I am still friends (were for 20 years before we got together, so......) He can ignore me for a while. Then come through for me when I need him, or just at other times say nice stuff, or be quite chatty....... I genuinely believe (and I’ve discussed this with him, too) that a length of time when we are not in contact, he just doesn’t notice, whereas I really bloody notice it!

I ALSO think that your ex may have been confused when he spoke to you, AND when he spoke to your friend. It doesn’t mean he was actually lying in either case. His head may just be a bit all over the shop at the moment.

Not that this makes it any easier for you, and I DO feel your pain! X

Hi,
Thanks for your response.
Yes they are strange I suppose, I guess all I wanted off him was closure and him to be straight with me and he couldn’t do that. He just completely switched off.
I guess he’s used to just switching off though as he’s always been cheated on so had no other choice! X

It’s like if he’d of been completely honest without giving me little strings of hope I wouldn’t have the urge to contact but feel like a lot of things have been left unanswered!
I’m now on day 8 NC x

OP which part of what you've put here don't you get?
Re read your OP.
You drove him away imho

Not disputing that at all. Just saying there’s no need for men to send mixed signals then say something completely different to another person

Half way through day 8.
Never thought I’d get past day 3 never mind to day 8. Lol x

Well done OP. You are doing well. Keep going. And I hope you feel better today.

And Monty, unless you have never made a mistake in your life, what’s the point in being like that? Even if her behaviour contributed to it, even if it caused it, that hardly means it doesn’t still hurt her now, does it? For God’s sake....

Thank you! It’s another hard day it seems as though the longer time goes on the harder it is, it’s strange lol!
And I totally agree so thanks for taking to my defence. I never once said I’d done nothing wrong I’ve held my hands up completely all I said is doesn’t give him a excuse to not be straight forward after the break up. As he said stuff that would give hope x

Thank you! It’s another hard day it seems as though the longer time goes on the harder it is, it’s strange lol!
And I totally agree so thanks for taking to my defence. I never once said I’d done nothing wrong I’ve held my hands up completely all I said is doesn’t give him a excuse to not be straight forward after the break up. As he said stuff that would give hope x

Day 8 complete as going to sleep now
X

Day 9

You can do this

Hi thank you.
I’m now on day 9. This morning was very emotional though I must of been crying for about a hour, genuinely felt so down.
I managed to pull myself together and didn’t cave so that’s a good thing.
I thought this no contact thing would get easier but it seems to be getting worse the longer it goes on.
But least I’m sticking to it x

Day 10.
Feel really anxious and my emotions are all over the place.
I nearly caved last night.. like I was so close to texting but I didn’t. Who ever said it was going to be easy eh?!