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How do you ask someone you're casually dating but who has gone a bit cold with texting if they want to leave it ?

59 replies

bigchris · 09/05/2019 20:10

I feel like I need closure

I feel sad because we were really close, texting etc but he's gone quiet , started off saying busy but now really quiet

Before he was so enthusiastic, I feel sad but feel like I need closure

OP posts:

tootruetoyou · 09/05/2019 22:29

And in my view there's something very demeaning about being left hanging/waiting for a text. I find that intolerable and have to bring it to a conclusion.

KeepCoolCalmAndCollected · 09/05/2019 22:34

Don't chase him.
His non-action speaks volumes.
Fuck those that fuck you.

Stiffasaboard · 09/05/2019 22:43

You sound proper lovely OP
Too good for him

But there are decent men out there. Just hidden Kingston the wankers. Keep the faith but be strong and remember you are fabulous.

And no need to regret the sex. So long as you enjoyed it at the time then you got something out of it so hold your head high!

LellyMcKelly · 09/05/2019 22:56

Online dating doesn’t mean anything really until you’ve had the exclusive conversation. Until then you could be one of any number of dates. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket early on. Move on. At least you got a few decent shags out of it.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 09/05/2019 23:31

Best to ignore him and move on (easy to say I know, but I have been there myself in the good old world of OLD).

His actions (or lack of them) are speaking volumes...don't beg for scraps, don't even acknowledge him. He has served a purpose..put it down to experience.

You deserve someone who will prioritise you and ADORE you

You've got this

Chocmallows · 09/05/2019 23:42

If he was interested things would have developed further not dwindled. Keen people message because they want to make sure they have your attention!

Don't give up on OLD, it can work. I was on it for years and found many unavailable men, but now in a good relationship. If you can learn to see dating as a fun experience with potential to go further, rather than having high expectations in the first few months it will get easier.

Chocmallows · 09/05/2019 23:44

Plus watch some Matthew Hussey / Amy Young videos on YouTube on dating. Some good advice on not investing too early.

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 10/05/2019 13:35

Online dating is bloody hard work! Come join us on the OLD thread. We are a supportive bunch who help each other and have a good laugh about the eejits

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 10/05/2019 13:36

Dating thread 158

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