Husband using live webcam girls

[pinkylander]

As above. Found out from his Ipad history. He mostly works away weekdays, home weekends, while hes away its almost every evening. Either porn or live shows Im not a prude, Im not anti porn, although i think his preference is weird and his use excessive, Ive always been accepting of it being "normal" in his world.
He is 15 years older than me and all i see now is a dirty old man! The girls are all very young, probably just about legal, same age as my daughter.

Im finding myself disturbed by it, especially as he is also getting private messages, which would indicate I think that he is interacting?
He has no idea that i know and I dont know where to take this or just keep quiet for the sake of a peacefull home life? I have read other similar threads about men and porn use on here but does anyone think live webcam is a step too far? Thanks for reading

He belittles his wife, repeatedly, by using an example of him turning his wife down for sex as fodder for a laugh at dinner parties?! He is 65 looking at "barely legal" (top tip, some of them will be underage and trafficked) when his partner has a daughter the same age?? He has asked your friends sister if he can watch/be involved in her sex life??? Because she is a lesbian?!???

He sounds at best like a filthy old pervert and it's not a big leap of imagination to think he could have spied on your daughter in the shower, and that he could be a danger to her or her mates. You've been through the mill with your previous husband dying it's true, but I don't think that's a reason to stay - he sounds like a shit husband and a shit stepfather.

The web cam stuff is one thing, but him bragging about lesbian porn and asking if he could watch your friends sister would make my skin crawl. He's a pervy creep.

He probably turned you down because he's not up to it and has ED that he's hiding.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I agree with pp, this is not porn it is engagement in interactive sexual acts. I would not be able to get past this.

Seriously you need to get rid of him....you deserve so much better..do you want your daughter growing up with someone like this...how long before he starts leaching over her.....sick or what .

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I like porn and occasionally watch with my dh. I don't mind him watching on his own, especially if away, but paying for someone is something else.
I couldn't get over family money being spent in this way, I'm sure there's something the family need the money for.
As for the young girls, nah, he's disgusting. Yuk!
If he isn't your dd dad I'd be worried for her actually.

Evening everyone. Please be assured my kids are safe. He works away months at a time, its only because hes been on a closer job and home for a few weekends , no more than 48 hrs a time, that ive been able to find this out.
Im an idiot, i knew what sort of lifestyle these workers have but he always said he didnt get involved in all "that".He would still be working when the others went to the massage parlour etc, I was stupid enough to believe so i only have myself to blame.
Sanityisamyth....Ive had suspicion over the finances for a while too. All ours are seperate.
Our house is on the market as he wants to retire abroad, think this is perfect timing to cut my losses.

Great timing OP!! Tell him he will be retiring abroad on his own, sounds like the kind of bloke who will be found nipping off to Thailand . You sound lovely, thing is with my H and the stuff I don’t like , he’s actually very respectful to women

@pinkylander very sensible!! Worst thing I ever did was get a joint account. It's ruined me financially and my credit rating has been destroyed. Sounds like you have an ideal opportunity coming up :)

Get your ducks in a row OP and don't say a word, wait until the house is sold and then tell him you've other plans that don't include him.

See a solicitor as well, to determine if you’re entitled to part of his pension or any other income. Where I live, he’d have to pay maintenance for the children, even though he’s not their father.

Better it be paid to you rather than human traffickers.

Here we go....another weekend of spying and screenshotting.
Last weekend revealed the usual trawl of porn.
Im getting quite good at this detective malarky and collecting evidence.
Going to be a long lining up of ducks but from little acorns.....
Have a good weekend everyone X

God, he sounds vile

I had to chuckle last weekend because one of the girls from his Russian dating site emailed him and she wasnt very happy that he hadnt responded to her !
At a guess i think he wants to be caught out. No deleting emails or history..... or is that just laziness or stupidity :/
I clear mine so he doesnt find my Mumsnet :))

Would he perhaps agree to be castrated? That might be evidence he is seeking help?

Castration might work lol
He says hes finding porn boring which may account for his constant trawling, not spendng more than 5 mins on anything (except 18 yr old lesbians) then trawling live cams, this is another step. I think its much like any addiction, it gets harder and harder to get a fix so now he needs to personally interact...............not excusing it at all just able to view it as if detatched. Im in the headspace of being totally detatche from him now, which is good.
Ironically hes working in Amsterdam at the mo and we all know what goes on there lol

Oh goodness, no! He’s into bloody tulips! The weirdo.