I assume it's gradual but I was thinking the other day that I don't love my STBXH anymore and actually I'm finding it more and more difficult to remember why I did love him.
It's so strange to feel that way when 8 months ago I was crying to my therapist that I still loved him.
He spent a year criticising me, gaslighted me over his affair, lied about why he was leaving and told me repeatedly that he wasn't in love with me. But I still found it so difficult to let go.
So for those who have been through it, were there any telltale signs that you were well over them? Or did you go on loving them in a way?