'The conditions are ripe for me to cheat again'

[spacedone123]

Said by my husband tonight.
Where to begin?

He's coming up 100% shit on my turd-o-meter.

Time to find someone who respects you eh?

Off you trot then. Don't come back.

All the pp saying chuck him out.

The OP is a SAHM... she doesn't earn any money. How exactly would she manage if the only income earner was out.

She has no legal right to chuck him out if this is a home in joint names.

OP... Are your DC in school? Could you get a part time job? Do you have access to money?

If I wasn't ready to leave, I'd tell to go ahead and declare it an open marriage on both sides. That'll give him a shock.

agree with this, call him out.

I was hoping he meant on XBox or something.

Anyways I agree with posters above, tell him you already have other men chatting with you too. Get yourself on OKCupid, Tinder, whatever and make yourself some new friends. It's far easier for us women to replace a man! I think there's like a 70% male to 30% female ratio on these kinds of sites.

Sometimes when you tell them to go, they do, tho SandyY2K.

I would say ‘ open marriage is it? Great, I have a date Thursday night, can you be home by 6.30 to be with the DC’
See his response

Don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split you.

Cheeky bastard.

Excuse me but are you still with him!!!!!?

My EX said that to me hence EX

I'd go with @WellErrr a midnight flit one day soon

"well that will make the divorce petition straightforward, then"

I really really don't know what I'm going to do. There'd be an early repayment charge on our mortgage if by some small miraculous chance our house sold. I have no way to support my kids. No income, no savings, no pension - just nothing.
I feel so foolish. I work once a month earning a very low amount but know there is no way I could increase days as my department is full. Then I'd have to pay childcare for my toddler as my mum has just been diagnosed with cancer and is having chemo and quite frankly I don't want to have to rely on my husbands family as the less I have to do with him the better.
I'm just completely screwed.

Are you educated? Can you take some online courses to upgrade your skills? Plan for when you split. Your toddler will soon enough be in school. Use that time to make yourself more marketable.

I'm sorry OP, that sounds really hard. And your STBXH sounds like a massive dick!

Could you look for another full time job around your childcare hours? Have you asked famiy?

You need to find out what you could legally expect, from a financial perspective, on divorce. It will not be as bleak as you think, but you need to see a solicitor.

I was a sahm when I divorced, and was able to stay in the house for several years. I claimed some benefits and tax credits that, with child maintenance, kept me afloat until dc were all at school and I could find work.

A lot will depend on your assets, his salary, the ages of your dc but a good solicitor will talk you through options and possibilities that you may not even have considered.

Tell him to close the door on the way out!

He seems to be on a bit of a power trip, probably knowing that you are not in a position to leave him There must be some way out.

@KOKOtiltomorrow why nectar points?? Are they particularly helpful during a divorce?

Well, you need to change things so you do feel like you have the choice to leave.

Look for work, check what benefits you might be entitled to as a single parent - you might be entitled to help with childcare costs? Start siphoning off money for an escape fund.

You're married, you gave a claim on the marital assets, he'd be expected to pay child support.

From his no fucks given attitude, you've no guarantee he won't just end things himself, so you need to regain your independence no matter what.

Sorry about your mum's illness, I hope she goes into remission. Fuck cancer.

Have a claim not gave.

Oh my gosh. What a knob. Kick him out spend time with your mum. He does not deserve anymore of your attention

Tuco are you on the right fucking thread?

Two sides to telling your wife you think you'll be cheating on her again?