'The conditions are ripe for me to cheat again'

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Said by my husband tonight.
Where to begin?

Hard to really grasp this without the context...! but the "again" bit is concerning.

“Again”? Wow.

What. A. Twat.

How do you feel about it op?

I do hope you showed him where the door is and then locked it behind him.

How did you respond?

Shit, do you even need to ask?

Here's your bag, it's not a revolving door, bye !

"Go fuck yourself"

Seriously, what an unattractive man.

He's obviously cheated before and seems be blaming you for it.

If I wasn't ready to leave, I'd tell to go ahead and declare it an open marriage on both sides. That'll give him a shock.

This is a man with no remorse for his previous infidelity.

His comment also indicates he has no fear and feels very confident you're not going to leave him. Losing you us not a fear he has.

Suspect he'll try say it's "banter". It isn't funny. If he cared about you he wouldn't say something like that

If OP and H are living in Marital home she can't just kick.him out and change the locks FFS!

OP...I suggest you emotionally detach and start "acquiring " as much as you can....money, nectar points, top cash back, bank accounts (within reason if u do have savings).

50 pound cash back when u use the debit card in supermarket as that is easily hidden. Stockpile toiletries....basically get all u can before the cheating scum bag does a number on you !

I'd probably think he's already cheating, and that throwing him out would be the best option.

Tell him he's an over ripe twat

Again?
He's still there after the first time and obviously hasn't changed.
I think you need a sti check, because he's probably at it again.
Why d you not think you are worth better?

LTB. What a twattish thing to say.

This conversation is creating conditions ripe for me kicking your ass out the door!

I love the “it isn’t cheating if you have permission” line, it’s perfect, use it, life is too short. Be happy.

Where to begin?

Don’t let the door hit your arse on the way out.

Then you move on with your head held high and don’t look back.

3 kids.
Stay at home mum
He cheated 3 years ago
I do not care anymore.
I'm not going to budge.
I will 'smoke him out' instead.
He is the most egotistical human I have ever come across.
I think I'm shock proof now.

@SandyY2K you have it on the nose.

I’d say nothing but quietly plan to leave, and then just do a midnight flit one day soon.

I mean, all the witty rejoinders would be great in theory, but in practice what you really need is a solid plan to leave, and to tell him as little as possible.

He sounds awful. Sorry OP. It’s not you, it’s him

Sounds like he's trying to guilt or blame you.

There are no 'conditions' where cheating is ripe in a monogamous exclusive relationship

And again? Chuck him out

If I wasn't ready to leave, I'd tell to go ahead and declare it an open marriage on both sides. That'll give him a shock.

I like this!

He's clearly a massive wanker. Don't tell me, he 'needs' more sex than you want and doesn't pull his weight with the DC, so you're knackered. Am I right?