I'll look a fool - won't I?

[Peachsnowpop]

Long story short... fancied a guy for a while, one night it seemed he liked me too. We had a good snogging session for a few hours . Bloody fantastic. He heavily indicated he was into me. Few other snogs after that. Things cooled down over time (his choice but nothing actually said). Messages over the last year have been none. He ignored my last message (Just said hi how r u type of thing). Now tomorrow night I know hes out in our local and OMG I so badly wanna go down there ..... but I'll look a fool ?

You can go down there that's fine but you'll either be used or ignored. Sorry

Skip it.
He's not arsed and it will hurt.

You won’t look a fool for going to the pub.

You are a fool to be obsessing over one snog who ghosted you. Move on. You’ll be much happier!

What if he’s there with another woman? I wouldn’t...it doesn’t sound like it will go how you want it to.

He ignored your last message. Do not go to the pub.

How do you know where he's going to be?

You are asking the wrong question.
The question is NOT "I'll look a fool for going to a pub won't I?"
The question you should be asking yourself is why you are chasing someone who is clearly not interested?
You snogged. You haven't had contact for a year. He ignored your last message.
Do not waste your time on someone who doesn't deserve it. He is not interested.
Put your energy into someone who will reciprocate the interest..

Probably better not to stalk him, really.

Well anyone can go to the pub and it doesn't make you look like a fool.

What makes you look a fool is what you do when there.

This guys just not that into you. Accept it and move on.

He's just not that into you

How do you know he's going to the pub tomorrow night?

If you go to the pub you will just do the desperation stare thing, you don't want to go down this route trust me, stay away from the pub and wake up with self respect and dignity in tact

Why do you want to go to the local pub? If it is because he will be there - DO NOT GO!

He hasn't replied to the last text you sent and you said he has cooled things down - so that is him giving you the 'bloke' indicators that he's not that into you.

Go out somewhere else and meet someone else because this guy is now a door that has closed - so get opening new ones.

Get yourself down that pub and make sure you look a million dollars! Be nice and kind, chat briefly, then go back to your girlfriends.

Looking good is the best revenge.

Mate. I'm you. I get this. It's fucking painful and I'm the pro-active type too...please don't.

Don't put yourself in the way of a man who doesn't care about you. He'll use and steamroller through you and you'll be left in pieces. Please, don't.

If you’re going there with the slightest hope that he will see you and get into you again, don’t go. If you did end up snogging him again he’d just drop you again anyway and you’d have to go through it all again. Don’t put yourself in the situation.

In response to ur q's ...

Yes I only wanna go to the pub coz he's there but at the same time me and my girlfriends go there quite a bit so he wouldn't think it was me stalking him if we turned up.

Things were weird between us - he cooled it off, nothing actually said but he stopped/heavily reduced messaging but still smiled at me, hugged me when he saw me and tooted me if he passed me and randomly sent a few hol pics. Wtf.

Can't say how i know he'll be at the pub as it could out me but it's not through stalking. Not sure what I to achieve by going to the pub to see him - guess I want him to snog me or flirt with me or something. It was a casual thing before and would only ever be that, I know that.

But i also know that he could ignore me and I would feel terrible all over again.

Probably best for me to avoid - which will be soooo hard but just manageable - ish

If he was into you he'd call you no? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Please don't go! Just don't give yourself the opportunity to make a fool of yourself.
I did it years ago and yes I got the flirting and the snogs but nothing ever came of it.
Believe me that hurts more than missing one night out in your local!

How will you feel though if he does snog you then walks away again? Will you feel worse?

I think we have all done this, the whole if he sees me he will eat his heart out shit, but in reality it seldom works out and you just feel like shite after.

Have some self respect, girl!

I think there's much more chance of making yourself look a fool than anything else. He's mad it perfectly clear that he's not interested enough to even be polite. If he doesn't get a better offer on the night he might end up snogging you again, but it won't turn into a relationship and you'll end up dragging out the hurt.

You sound like you’ve made a pretty tiny thing into a huge deal!

You sound like me twenty years ago!

Don't do it. Have a nice night at home to distract yourself, and at the end of it feel bloody proud that you've not put yourself in a crappy situation again.

Please don't go!

Plenty of other pubs have guys who are actually worth your time and effort.