He has been spying on me

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I've broken up with an absolute idiot of a man, last September. He is still in my house which is so frustrating as I feel like I've not made any progress. I was getting changed on Monday and realised he was watching me through a crack in my bedroom door! I feel violated and disgusted. If I was to speak to the police or someone what should I say? Is it a crime?

Why the hell is he still in your house?!?

You need to get him out of the house
Why is he still there?

Wanted to add that I think that he has done this before since I ended it he has become adept at sneaking around on the landing but I wasn't sure. He was definitely doing it on Monday and I pretty much have a screenshot of him admitting to it.

Why is he still in your house ? Whose name is it in ?

Because he's a nasty, conniving abuser who uses any leverage he has over me to extend his ability to stay there I. E. Offering to look after my dog instead of me putting her in kennels whilst I'm at uni or threatening to kill himself

Again, why is he there? Whose name is on the tenancy? If it's yours, chuck him out immediately.

The house is in my name, verbal tenancy with my father, I'm on all the bills. Should I have called the police on the day?

Those are not legitimate reasons for him to still be there.

Whose name is it in ?

Oh he won't kill himself. And put your dog into kennels or get a sixth former to walk him every morning and night.

Call the police now if you wish and get him out.

Would your dad tell him to leave if you are not in a position to do so ?

It's quite hard, to make him go, he constantly makes an excuse to stay, I don't want him to, I wanted some advice

Why have you not kicked him out?? Just change the locks when he's out. Don't be emotionally blackmailed or you'll never be free.

Don't waste another minute. Do it now!

Start putting his stuff outside calmly. If he causes a scene ring the police. Can your df be there?

Have you posted about this Complete Tosser before ?

Is it a crime, my dad is nearly 70

The advice is that he needs to leave your house.

We are giving you advice. Tell him to leave and stop listening to the emotional blackmail. Your choice.

Yes I have, the saga has been going on for a ridiculously long time

Is what a crime ?

Tell your dad your problem, get him round and tell the creepy fucker to leave. If he won't then call the police and have him removed.

Come on OP, he won't kill himself and even if he did it's on his own head not yours.

Yes, I thought I recognised you

What sort of different responses were you looking for ?

You won't kick this dickhead of a man out so you won't put your dog into a kennel? Are you serious? He won't kill himself, he's loving the control he has over you.

Watching someone like that

Yes it’s a crime.

You’d struggle to prove it if he doesn’t admit it.

Tell him to leave.

If he won’t, call the police.