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Anyone know what happens if you report someone to police for somewhat historic abuse?

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Sunlov · 23/04/2019 16:42

If they have a new baby.

To explain - an ex, with a history of DV, psychosis, alcoholism, drug use, BPD, psychiatric admissions etc. I called police in January when I found out they had a new baby but they couldn't locate him.

I have managed to locate the new girlfriend.

I've messaged the new girlfriend on FB and she has quite simply blocked me (fair enough - I could be anyone).

The danger he poses is extreme. Will they do anything?

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MrsGarethSouthgate · 23/04/2019 21:14

The six month 'limit' will relate only to the more minor physical assaults/harassment as these offences go statute barred after that time period. You can still report them, they will be recorded as a crime but they cannot be prosecuted.

More serious assaults/abuse can be prosecuted without time limits - but can be difficult to prove depending on what evidence there is to support the claims. In the situation that you describe it's definitely worth trying if he poses the danger you say.

You can also call 101 and make a Clare's Law application, naming the new partner as potentially being the one in danger. Although the DV towards you hasn't been reported previously that's not to say that other violence wasn't, and you can voice your personal concerns when asking for the application to be made.

Good luck, I hope someone manages to intervene.

Sunlov · 23/04/2019 21:15

I'm not malicious, and I just couldn't see him do time because of what he did to me. I suppose in a strange way, I half didn't believe it myself, I didn't want him to go to jail and I literally wanted to close the door on it.

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Sunlov · 23/04/2019 21:20

I'm just wondering what version of events he has told her that she instantly blocked me. I'd listen if I had a tiny baby.

I told her who I was, the entire psychiatric history and domestic violence history. She just blocked me.
I've done my bit. Not on me anymore.

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Sunlov · 23/04/2019 21:21

Unless he's a reformed character and it was indeed me causing him to be violent. Wink

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BigRedLondonBus · 23/04/2019 21:27

Im guessing he spun the crazy ex storyline and If shes never experienced it she may well believe him. Im not saying your malicious but with no evidence im sure that that is what they will pass it out to SS as “crazy ex holding a grudge”

Sunlov · 23/04/2019 22:16

They can do what they like now. Not my circus.

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