Me and DP get married in 6 weeks and I think the stress of organising the wedding with a little one is getting to both of us, however, I need to know if I’m in the wrong here and should go apologise.
This is how we’ve spent the Bank holiday weekend. Friday, dp went fishing with his dad and nephew. I call a few times just to say morning, then just to check in see how it’s going and then again as I’d forgotten to ask what time he’d be home and whether he wants dinner. First call was fine, other two I felt like he was off with me. (He is denying anything was wrong and that I’m making it up to make him out to be the one in the wrong 🤷♀️)
Saturday morning he was being grumpy as he was tired so I reacted and said I’m not spending my weekend like this. Everything just carried on and we then went to a shopping outlet that he wanted to go to, with a bit of an atmosphere and I ended up buying two things and he didn’t get anything. He then napped in the car on the drive back so was happier.
Saturday evening we went to my friends house for a bbq. He decided he was having a drink which left me to do the driving but it was a good evening.
Sunday morning we went to a large market, which again was for him (stag do is next weekend so he was trying to buy some new clothes). Again I ended up buying more than him but with his encouragement.
We then popped to my sisters house as my niece had her appendix out the afternoon before. My mum got dp to help with some weeding of the garden for 5mins. I knew nothing of this until it was done.
DP then kept asking if he could go pub with my BIL and I said no. I didn’t say why to him but my reasoning was that it would mean him getting drunk and me doing the parenting again.
We go home, baby goes down for a nap (doesn’t actually happen but) so I start trying to do some wedding stuff but dp wouldn’t help as he wanted to nap. We have a huge row, he tells me that it can be done once the baby has gone to bed at 8pm. I get annoyed as nothing ever gets done once the baby has gone to bed! I also wanted us to pop out in the evening as my sister needed us to vote for her in something but he then declared that we wasn’t going as I’d said he couldn’t go earlier.
We spent the evening not talking and no wedding planning got done.
This morning we had another row and he said some hurtful things about I need to look at how I treat people, he’ll treat me the same way.
We had to be at a meeting at the wedding venue, we hadn’t done the check sheet we needed to complete. So we rushed it, he kept getting grumpy throughout. He kept going on about this is why we should’ve done it yesterday. I end up snapping I know, it’s why I wanted to do it yesterday afternoon, we are where we are now let’s just get on with it. Once completed we then didn’t say a word to each other until we have the meeting. We then spend the day with a huge atmosphere but we made a family day of it. As we are leaving I mention I still need to get to the shopping centre and he gets the hump again as it was meant to be a family day. It was always known I needed to go. He needs to go too but said he was going to do it another time (when I don’t know as back to work tomorrow, I have wedding dress fitting tomorrow night, Wednesday night is his last night with the baby and then he goes on Thursday). I just said why don’t we all go now, his reply was he doesn’t want to follow me round the shops. I then cut my nose of to spite my face and refused to go by myself or it’ll give him something else to moan about.
I’ve then gone to him three times to try and resolve this but because I’m not apologising for my reaction he won’t have a bar of it.
Writing this down has made me realise how pathetic it really is but I really don’t think I’m in the wrong so I’m obviously missing something that I’ve done. Can you please tell me where I am going wrong??