I'm so hurt by what he said.

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For the last few months my husband has been jokingly saying he's not getting enough sex. We might have sex 2-3 most weeks. I work long hours and I have 3 kids so naturally im not as wild as my pre kids days. Last night my husband and I were chatting in bed.the topic came up and he said "sure u just lie there like a sack of potatoes anyway" I'm really hurt by this. I said I didn't but he said yes u do.
Overnight I've lost respect for him, I'm very upset at his words. Or maybe I'm been too sensitive

No foreplay?? He sounds like a massive dickhead

A lazy lover, no good to anybody.

I’d tell him the reason you lie there like a sack of potatoes is because he does nothing for you. No foreplay and it’s over when he is? He sounds extremely selfish

I agree with PPs he must be a pretty crap shag for you to just lie there. He can’t just blame you.

Lordofthefries, he is selfish in every way

Why are you with him op, based on your last statement.

I also think you need to point out to him that you can only react to what he does and if he's shit in bed then of course you aren't going to give much reaction.

God he sounds dreadful in bed! He’s lucky that you can be bothered at all!

Not a very skilled lover now is he? Tell him he can buy a blow up doll if he wants sex ever again!

Tbh I'm thinking all day about it then I'm.like did he actually say that. How on earth do I have sex with him after that. Self confidence regarding sex is in my boots😔

I'll finish you in the fucking morning? And he's rude to you? Yeah don't bother with him he's not gonna be nice about it what's the point?

There’s no way I’d be able to have sex without foreplay. So, to put it simply, when you have sex it’s literally him immediately putting his penis in you and and off he goes? Literally no foreplay?

Where is he getting his ideas from? My ex took up with a woman then asked me why I didn’t ‘roll around more’ in bed. Because we’d been doing it decades and knew where everything went? Anyway, ‘rolling around’ was meant to be a key feature. Try it and report back, maybe. ;)

Sounds like your sexual self confidence was already in your boots. He’s done a real number on you making YOU feel bad about your sex life when it’s really him that should be embarrassed at how bad he is.

If he thinks you are bored during sex, it must be because he is boring.

Sorry you’ve had to hear this. It’s incredibly rude. Tell him you’re feelings are very hurt. Sex is physical and emotional. Both sides need to work. I would be very hurt too. He needs to apologise and buy you a very large

Your not you’re

Just to say - don’t let him get any further under your skin. He’s the one firmly in the wrong. Make it very clear you are very upset and what he said is very hurtful. Don’t let him turn it into “ I was just being honest” or insert some sort of gaslighting quote.

He needs to make this right.

Shot himself in the foot or what. Went from regularly 2-3 sessions a week to nowt!!

I would be looking at other aspects of your marriage and deciding if they are as unsatisfactory.
If he puts as little effort into your marriage and home life as he does your sex life, it may be time to rethink the marriage dynamics.

Ugh, grim. He's an arse. Please leave him op! You can do so much better than this.
Your second post is quite sad/upsetting to read.

Please consider whether he brings anything positive to your life.

If not, please leave. I promise that you will be better off alone than dragging him around your neck like a millstone for the rest of your life.

No foreplay! Wait what no foreplay? What's the fucking point then? My dh can be a selfish arse but when it comes to sex I get my jollies first, then him. A sack of potatoes is too bloody good for him.

If somebody called me a sack of potatoes he wouldn’t be touching me again

Fucking hell, OP, I’d be lying like a sack of potatoes too if he didn’t turn me on or even try. He’s hardly making you feel sexy, is he? What an idiot.

This is no reflection on you, so don’t allow it to determine your feelings about yourself.

Its an indication of how inadequate and nasty he is, how selfish and critical, and I think you need to think very, very seriously on whether or not your want to waste spend your one and and only life with that

Wow. I’d be very upset by that and would be replacing him with a vibrator. Satisfaction guaranteed, minus nasty comments.

Last night my husband and I were chatting in bed.the topic came up and he said "sure u just lie there like a sack of potatoes anyway"
That was a very hurtful comment and, if he was hoping for even more sex, he's going the wrong way about it. He also doesn't sound like a generous lover if he doesn't care about your pleasure before, during AND after.

Given you are working long hours and have three children I think you are doing well to engage 2/3 times weekly to be honest. I wonder also how much help he is with the children or how hands on he is with the household chores or the mental load of what needs doing when and where.

Frankly I think I'd give up having sex with him at all!