Have been posting a long time but name changed as I don't want my other posts along with this outing me.
I have a fairly new friend. He isn't a close friend and we meet up occasionally to catch up, rarely chat online, rarely call each other and have a sort of shared interest. There is nothing other than a platonic relationship and it wouldn't ever develop into one either.
He told me that English women can't complain about being raped because they dress so provocatively. I challenged him and his reasoning is that men get aroused because of the flesh they see and they can't be blamed for wanting sex. He said women bring it on themselves because when a man sees them they look like prostitutes. I've chatted with my daughter and one sons about this as I'm not very good at friendships (history of bad decisions and being betrayed by 'trusted friends' and men. I have very deep held views about rape, due to my childhood, so I am not sure if I am overreacting by not wanting this man in my house... But then I also think about the positive things he has brought into my life and my lack of confidence with friendships rears up again.
Unsure how relevant this is; he is in his 30s, seems religious and from a western European country.
How would you handle this? Want to also say, with my lack of confidence I'm not sure how well I'll be able to participate in the responses but will do my best to answer questions that may help me decide what to do. I feel anxious even posting this please try to be kind.