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Cheating?

50 replies

K2608 · 14/04/2019 15:11

Hi everyone

Long story short. Happy Relationship of 11 years, married 3 years and two children- 4 and 2 years old... am I over-reacting? I'm not quite sure how to process or deal with this yet... messages below.. I was just putting a film on for the children and saw these....messages are deleted by Sony if they are rude or reveal address etc

Cheating?
Cheating?
Cheating?
OP posts:
mistygrl · 14/04/2019 15:12

No. Your not xxx

bigchris · 14/04/2019 15:14

Oh that's grim Sad

bigchris · 14/04/2019 15:15

He's been sending pics of himself in return for pics of other women's breasts Sad

Roxybaby12 · 14/04/2019 15:20

Hi, you’re definitely not over reacting! I had a similar situation with husband before Xmas! (A woman he used to work with).. conversation started innocent and by the end he was asking for pictures and promised to delete them.. they even mentioned meeting up! I lost my mind and screamed at him! He admitted he was being a jerk but felt so desperate for some attention as I made him feel like I didn’t want him or love him! It hurts most because he was so eager to hide it all from me.. we talked til 4am and he has now deleted her from everything!
So I guess maybe talk to him and tell him what you’ve found! Give him a chance to explain... in my case it was a conversation that got out of hand.
I hope you manage to get to the bottom of it. Good luck x

Sunshineandflipflops · 14/04/2019 15:20

How horrible. So your kids could have seen this?!

Are they text messages?

Original poster
K2608 · 14/04/2019 15:24

Thanks everyone

Will raise it this evening when he is home from work and the children are asleep!

Yes the children can see all of this it's on his PlayStation, which we all have access to. Luckily my children can't read but my niece is here today and started reading it!

Wish me luck! I might need it...

OP posts:
Sunshineandflipflops · 14/04/2019 15:25

He admitted he was being a jerk but felt so desperate for some attention as I made him feel like I didn’t want him or love him!

Ahhhh...so it was all YOUR fault he cheated? Yep, usually the way 🙄

Sunshineandflipflops · 14/04/2019 15:27

Yes the children can see all of this it's on his PlayStation, which we all have access to. Luckily my children can't read but my niece is here today and started reading it!

That’s unforgivable, even if the messages aren’t. I would be fuming and horrified if my kids saw something like that. How utterly selfish.

SinkGirl · 14/04/2019 15:27

Ugh, what a scum bag. The internet is full of photos and videos of naked women, why is he harassing random women for photos? Of course it’s cheating, he’s vile.

AllTheWhoresOfMalta · 14/04/2019 15:29

He wouldn’t even be having the opportunity to get into the house if it was me. Pack him a bag and lock the fucker out. What a sleaze.

HeavyLocks · 14/04/2019 15:30

Yup. Good luck op.

ShabbyAbby · 14/04/2019 15:35

I would be surprised if there isn't more if he can do it somewhere so obvious

patphelan · 14/04/2019 15:42

This is definitely not a one off so don't listen to his shit, as you know he will probably deny it, then say it was just a joke, then say it was a one off and then the poor me routine. Ask him for full access to his phone right there and now and watch his reaction. I'm sorry you found this but I would bet my last pound that this isn't the only thing he's up to. I also, agree with the pp who said pack a bag, dump it at the bottom of the road and send him a pic of the screen shots and where his belongings are

Newadventure · 14/04/2019 15:47

Urgh that's disgusting.
You say it was on the PlayStation so is it someone he games with??
Keep those pictures btw..

SparklyMagpie · 14/04/2019 15:54

That's just made me feel sick

Unacceptable

AnyFucker · 14/04/2019 15:55

He wouldn't be getting back over the threshold.

LuluBellaBlue · 14/04/2019 16:04

Sorry OP, I couldn’t forgive someone for that Flowers

MsDogLady · 14/04/2019 17:10

Will raise it this evening.

You would actually let him back into the house? Where is your self-respect?

He is blatantly cheating on you. There is nothing to discuss, unless you want to give him a chance to lie and manipulate.

I would text him to stay elsewhere, possibly with Miss Redhead Sugartits. Lock the door with the key in it.

How appalling that your niece started reading it. What a despicable man.

Bouldghirl · 14/04/2019 17:17

Every relationship has a red line. He has crossed it. I’m another who says don’t let him back into your life. It is totally unforgivable.

Shoxfordian · 14/04/2019 17:18

He's disgusting
Ltb

Charley34 · 14/04/2019 17:38

Sorry OP that's out of order you need to kick him to the kerb!

Unacceptable behaviour

youknowmedontyou · 14/04/2019 17:43

Sorry that's shit!

funkylittleboatrace · 14/04/2019 19:25

Gross behaviour

anonforthespies43267 · 14/04/2019 19:31

Disgusting. I couldn’t forgive this. I would send him the messages now and tell him not to bother coming home!

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 14/04/2019 19:59

Good luck OP , I'm not a suspicious person but that can only be one thing.

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