Cheating?

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Hi everyone

Long story short. Happy Relationship of 11 years, married 3 years and two children- 4 and 2 years old... am I over-reacting? I'm not quite sure how to process or deal with this yet... messages below.. I was just putting a film on for the children and saw these....messages are deleted by Sony if they are rude or reveal address etc

Pervy men asking for pics are the reason I no longer game online.

God why are some men such twats

It's a bit weird, is he trying to get 'tit pics' from a woman on a Sony chatroom?

I wouldn’t give him another chance. I play online games and they are full of pervy guys. I delete and block around 2/3 each week and I don’t even play that often. From speaking to other female opponents these guys do this with all of their female opponents in the hope of getting one who doesn’t delete and block them! There’s no way I would put up with a slime ball like that! As others said, there will definitely be more to it. Don’t let him fob you off!

Oh I am so sorry . This intrusion into your family life is so wrong. No boundaries, these guys. WTF is wrong with him?
You and your kids deserve so much more - like a decent , honourable man. Sorry to say, your DH now seems like the complete opposite.
Wishing you the strength to deal with this

Ugh what a letchy douche...

Get an STD test - I would bet my bottom dollar this is just the tip of the iceberg.

What the fuck is the matter with these people?? 😶

For everybody on here saying - LTB and i’d not forgive - let’s just remember that we have no idea about OP and her H’s relationship. And we do know there are two little children.....
Let’s also remember all the women on here with posts of ‘I have always said i’d Leave if he cheats, but now it’s happened to me - I can’t and want to rebuild’...
It’s very easy to see someone else’s life as black/white. Not easy when it’s yours and your children’s.

So - he is clearly been an idiot with these messages.... They read like digital catcalling, rather than a conversation with a pro or an affair partner...,
So - yes - reason to be very angry. But not yet a reason to make rush decisions and change the locks.

Hope you managed to have a conversation with him, OP

That's so gross! He's been a complete arsehole! You deserve better xx

How did it go, OP?

I'm confused, those messages deleted by moderator, they were either explicit in nature or rude pictures is that right?

Does the other person get to see them before they get removed?

I can see how it is like digital cat calling. Maybe that's a good analogy.

Problem is I imagine most people also don't want their partners cat calling people. Digital or otherwise. I'm not sure what's worse- someone cheating (EA or physical) Or just finding out your DP is a letch/sleaze generally.

Update...

So we had a chat last night. He said it's a bot that sends you messages. So he played along. To be honest he isn't like that usually so it all did seem confusing and out of character. He did actually report it to Sony himself and showed me his message and Sony's reply message which states it is a bot and will be removed. Sony then removed the content from the message which was from the bot 🤷🏻‍♀️ all very strange!

That doesn't seem to make much sense. Why would he ask for tit pics if he thought there wasn't even a person there ?

So the bot sent him photos?

His message said she/it sent him two pics. Can Sony recover those too?

Very strange update.

I call bull shit !

He's covering his tracks.

Sounds like bullshit to me, if it was a bot (and he knew it was apparently)why did he engage?
Yuck.

Nope. These are very specific replies to a ‘bot....’

I actually believe him.

If he’d wanted more he’d easily have got it.

What?
He’s lying.
Why would a bot send 2 pictures. It’s a blatant lie OP

I've rarely met anyone less trusting and more cynical......and I believe him.

I read back the ss. They sound like he is being snarky.

We get messages from "bots" all the time on our PlayStation, usually ignore them but if you reply they do engage, basically if you talk back they invite you to watch/pay for a cam show. This will stop those messages coming through

I think he’s telling the truth, he was just sarcastically playing along. Worth mentioning to him now that the window is open what he would be set to lose if he ever did stray!

Wow well I’ve been playing online since 2012.. got some angry/misogynistic/pervy pms but never like this! Ignore this if it fits with what you WANT to believe op... but I don’t have an ‘obviously female’ name and even if I did who “goes along with it” for a laugh or whatever.. absolute bullshit if you ask me. He didn’t have to respond, he was sniffing about for exactly what you see there. Don’t ignore what is blatantly put in front of you, please. We have no biased reasons for saying what we see.. I hope you figure it out ❤️

But even for a "joke" why would he ask a bot questions like that...and whilst alone I'd still be pissed off. That's not right