Anyone up for a chat please

[BlessingsAreComing]

Hi.... I can't talk to any one in my real life. It's all falling apart and doesn't seem to get better. Anyone up for a chat please?

I’m here, how’s your day been today?

I'm awake. Whats up?

How can we help?

Whhat's happened?

Feel free to let it all out... We're all eyes

Blessings I’m up for a chat too x

I'm here. Handhold at the ready should you need.

Thank you all for being here for me. I have had enough of everything. My health, relationship with my husband, my lack of a career, not being able to even have a close group of friends in real life.
I can't see what I am doing wrong. I am the most giving, caring & considerate person.

What's wrong with me?

You need to break it down into manageable chunks lass.

It sounds like things are very stressful and overwhelming. What is stopping you from having friends and a career? Is your dh supportive with your health issues?

MrsMozart.... True. But it's all intertwined. I just don't know which thread to unpick first.
I think i will start with my personality. I am certainly doing something wrong. I have tried to analyse a million times but I can't seem to understand .

You sound completely overwhelmed Sorry you're feeling like this. Can you break it down? We'll see what we can do to help.

Sorry, crossed post. Why don't you start by telling us a bit more about you? What job do you do?

I find writing it down. A column for each thing, then just write what comes to mind under each hearing.

I've done this a few times. It can take a few goes. Each time through it'll start to focus on points. But! You have to put the good stuff as well.

#can relate OP to some of it, you're not alone xx

Bless you you do sound overwhelmed I bet it’s not you or your personality though. Life can be very hard and feel like it’s all falling apart sometimes (or a lot of the time) it is usually unfortunate situations rather than a person themselves. Hope we can help x

I know you haven't said much... but that list sounds like someone who cares too much for other people and not enough for themselves.

Strangely, people who are more self interested seem to do better. You sound like someone who is trying to make themselves better by pleasing/appealing to other people.

Try being selfish. Work out what you want to do and go for it, ignoring what other people need from you. As you start to feel better, and get your own needs met, the people around you will fall into place.

Life is hard, but you keep on going, each day is new. Choose 1thing to improve with small steps first. I suggest your health, do everything you can to improve it if possible that will help you start to feel like your fitter in life's fight xx

Poppy, Charlotte.... I got pregnant and couldn't work after I had the baby. It's been 8 years since. I haven't got any experience in my relevant field. I emailed a number of offices for internships and offer of free work, no response. I feel my life is in a mess as I am not financially independent.

My relationship with my husband is up and down. I would be much better if I had financial independence

I wish I could just talk to some one.

You could talk to the Samaritans.
What about writing it all out? Like a journal?

Blessings what is the one thing that's bothering you the most? Is it your relationship with your husband?

have you any mum friends from your dc's school to talk to. could you invite round one of your dc's friends on a play date and invite the mum in for a chat.

You are talking to us.

I know how u feel. I have tried so many times to make friends and i don't know where i go wrong. The last attempt ended in 2 messaged being exchanged on .f.b and the 2nd went unread. I joined a baby group for hard of hearing children and last time me and my son were the only ones there. My dh has sat on his arse all day watching me run round cooking and cleaning. I don't work so im stuck too x