Unforgivable insults..?

[Sabrinatheteenagebitchx]

Yesterday myself and my partner had a petty argument and in this argument he decided to call me a 'pathetic stupid fat cunt'. He apologised today but obviously i haven't accepted the apology..

Its the fat bit i find unforgivable. How can we ever move past this?

That would really hurt me.

I feel so shit about myself. Feel like a fat good for nothing!

I didnt really say much back to him. Worst i said was shut up stop being so pathetic.

Ah ok, I was only asking to see if it was maybe a slanting match so he threw that in there.
I know you said he's apologised which is good but I feel you need to have a conversation about how bad this has made you feel before it builds to resentment.
He has some repairing to do.

*Slagging match

...if this was a new relationship or no children involved it would be end of relationship without a doubt.

Tbh the other words don’t hurt me they are words just said in anger.

It is precisely because you have a child that this should be the end of this relationship. How terrible that he/she will be learning that it is permissible for a man to degrade a woman with such vile words, argument or not. This is a blueprint for your child’s future relationships.

I wouldn’t stay with a man who chooses to demean me. I wouldn’t expose my 4 year old to such a toxic environment.

Sabrina you are worth more than a person no more than that the one person in the world whom is supposed to love you and be your partner against the rest of the world degrading and insulting you!

I'd rather be alone for the entire rest of my life than be with someone who belittled and insulted me.

You deserve better, losing weight won't change how he perceives you or make him treat you better all it will do is show him that his treatment of you works and therefore increase it.

You sound lovely don't ever let anyone make you feel less than because if they do they don't fucking deserve a place in your life!

I'm not telling you not to lose weight if you want to. What I'm saying is your weight is utterly irrelevant as to why he said what he did.

Your weight is a red herring which I think is probably easier for you to obsess over than facing the bigger issue that your partner is a horrible c*nt

Wow this would really upset me. It's unforgivable imo. Even if the pain of hearing that numbed over time, I'd never forget it being said and the hatred that must be behind it. Really feel for you OP.

The worst I think I’ve ever said to my husband is ‘don’t be so f*ing stupid’ and I was mortified I’d said it. Name calling is horrible. What he said goes way beyond that - it’s a personal insult, not an attack on your behaviour. I’d question what he thinks about you and how much he respects you. So sorry OP :(

That's really awful I'm really sorry he said that to you

Is there the possibility however that he does not really think you are fat but knows that you do because you have worried openly in front of him about it... and so he knew it would hurt you if he said that, and he wanted to hurt you because he was angry?
If you think his apology was genuine and want to continue the relationship I think I'd look at the bigger picture... has he ever complained about your weight before? Does he compliment you and or correct you if you put yourself down? Is he physically affectionate towards you etc?
If so I really dont think you need to worry that that is actually what he thinks of you. It's more likely it was something he said in the heat of the moment because he knew it's something you worry about and was trying g to hurt you....
Which doesnt make that he said it any better because it horrible that someone would want to hurt you... but it does mean that you shouldnt worry it's an expression fo his true feelings about your weight.

If you look at the bigger picture and he does often belittle you or act with disrespect towards you... well then no I would not be forgiving him.