So, I have lived with my partner for the last 6 years. We are engaged and most of the time are very happy. My in-laws live less than 3 miles from us. My farther in-law comes round every morning, around 7.30am on weekdays and a little later at weekends. He returns in the afternoon and stays for a couple of hours. He does a few jobs like cutting the lawn, takes out bins and takes the dog for a walk. I feel like this is his second home and he enjoys being around us. My mother in law takes it on herself to come round once or twice a week to do my washing and ironing. She sometimes stays longer and cleans the windows or general housework. Whilst I appreciate their help sometimes I feel like my home is being invaded, sometimes after work I just want to chill out, play music and have a glass of wine which is difficult if my in-laws are here. My house sometimes I feel is not my home and I find myself going out to avoid them. They're passive aggressive in the sense that they hold it against me that they 'have' to do these things to keep the house ' in order' and I'm not cut out for domestic duties. The thing is, my partner and I are morethan willing and capable of doing all the things my in-laws do. Am I being ungrateful? I just wish they would get on with their own life and let us get on with ours. TIA!