Husband loves me but isn't in love with me

[Hjb2410]

That's what my husband told me on Mother's Day, that he loves me but isn't in love with me anymore.

I know there's never a good time to be told that but Mother's Day was the absolute worst, as it was my fourth Mother's Day with my mum after she passed away very suddenly.

I'm at a complete loss what to do or think.

We spent the first week of April awkwardly trying to act normal but not succeeding very well to this Monday my husband telling me he needed some space and time to get his thoughts together so has gone to his mums/ best friend.

I'm devastated.

We will have been together 6 years this week and will be our third wedding anniversary in July. I love him with all my heart and want to spend the rest of my life with him. I feel in total limbo and that my life's on hold because he doesn't know whether he wants to be with me or not?

I'm considering us going to relate counselling however when I mentioned this to him he replied 'it's up to you' to wish I said no it's a joint decision if we want this marriage to work.

I agree we both need to make an effort at us spending more quality time together as we have both been incredibly busy and almost been like ships passing sometimes. So a few weeks ago I booked us an Easter break away to which he didn't disagree at booking and suggested at the weekend for us to go out for tea to which he didn't take me on. When asked about tea and why he didn't want to go he replied he didn't 'have the desire to go out for a meal with me'

I'm heartbroken and don't know what to do

Be nice, don't beg but tell him limno is intolerable for you and you respect yourself too much to be at his beck and call. And legal advice as above.

I think it's better to let this go at this stage OP. I know you're married but at least they're aren't any kids involved. If he's throwing you the "love you but not IN love with you" at this relatively early, child-free stage, I feel like his opinion will only get stronger with the stresses of children (emotionally and physically) and you may struggle with the emotional fall-out more if you'd had kids with him. At least now, you can wipe the slate clean, meet someone, have a child etc. (I know it's easier said than done and there's no guarantees but it's very cold to tell you on mother's day - that's the worst part of it). If you pull back (i.e not bothered if you break up) he may become interested again but probably only for a while before the same dissatisfaction kicks in. It's not you, some people just think the grass is always greener on the other side.