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Lie ins

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Nevaehy12 · 24/03/2019 07:08

morning fellow peeps!! Just out of curiosity does anybody's partners let them have a lie in at all at the wkd? Lo is 8months and not once has he got up to feed her in the night or has he got up in the morning to let me have a little more sleep. Am I just moaning or do 'lie ins' actually exist when your a mummy??

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GinUnicorn · 24/03/2019 07:10

Me and my DP take turns with the lie ins although he needs more sleep that I do.

I’ll be up 730 latest whereas he can sleep until 10

Disfordarkchocolate · 24/03/2019 07:11

Well, my husband gets up before me every day and gets me a hot drink and did lots of help in the nights. He's not unusual. Your both parents he should help at least some nights and make sure you get some lie-ins.

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Nevaehy12 · 24/03/2019 07:11

If I don't wake him up he will get up about 11!

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EmrysAtticus · 24/03/2019 07:11

We take it in turns too :) He has Saturday and I have Sunday. However our DS is 3 so night wakings aren't as frequent. If you are doing multiple night wakings and he isn't doing any you should really get both lie ins.

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Nevaehy12 · 24/03/2019 07:12

My partner had to put a reminder on his phone to make me a cup of tea on a Sunday but he still hasn't made me one!!

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Haz1516 · 24/03/2019 07:13

Yes, he gets up usually 3 times a week in the morning before work or on a weekend. My 9 month old still wakes up a couple of times a night, which I always see to. It's not fair to always have to be up at 6, while he has uninterrupted nights every night.

Iloveacurry · 24/03/2019 07:14

If you’re on mat leave, then yes I suppose you deal with the majority of night feeds. When it comes to the weekend, you should at least have one lie in. We used to do that when our two were that age.

thefirst48 · 24/03/2019 07:14

No it's not normal he needs to pull his weight, he is your little ones parent too. My partner has a lie in one day and I have a lie in the next. When not working he always did his share of night feeds.

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 24/03/2019 07:15

I'm breast feeding so he can't, I do sometimes hand DS over after the early morning feed, so about now, and I'll go back to sleep for a couple of hours

ZippyBungleandGeorge · 24/03/2019 07:16

He gets up when we do regardless of whether I go back to sleep or not

LifeBeginsNow · 24/03/2019 07:17

We do normally take it in turns but due to shift work, sometimes he works on the weekend.

To be honest, I've been very surprised by it. I find it hard to relax when it's my turn as I half expect him to call me to help. I don't know why though as he's better with the LO than me!

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Nevaehy12 · 24/03/2019 07:17

I don't expect him to get up during the week as he has work but at wkd he should help..He doesn't even think hes in the wrong. I'm so tired,im falling asleep about 8 every night.it was the same with our 6yo aswel.

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TeaForDad · 24/03/2019 07:23

My dw breastfed and did all the night stuff after about 4 weeks old.
I got up with her to do a nappy or two overnight or if there's any problems.

I got in a great having of talking baby and dog to the shop weekend mornings to buy breakfast

What kind of adult wants to stay in bed till 11 though, ffs

Margotshypotheticaldog · 24/03/2019 07:24

He's lazy. Make him get up.

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Nevaehy12 · 24/03/2019 07:24

I know!! I'm not asking for the world then?!

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Nevaehy12 · 24/03/2019 07:25

It's the same every wkd!!! I'm sick of shouting at him to get up

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WelcomeToShootingStars · 24/03/2019 07:40

No kids here but we have a dog who's an early riser. We take it in turns getting up with her, depending if one of us is particularly tired, had a long week etc.

Sunshineandflipflops · 24/03/2019 07:48

When my kids were small we took it in turns at the weekends. I would no way be doing both mornings and most of my friends do/did the same.
Ironically now my kids are older and spend EOW at their dads I am wide awake at 7am every weekend!

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Nevaehy12 · 24/03/2019 07:54

Right,I'm getting the lazy b***d up now!!!

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Arowana · 24/03/2019 08:00

My DH loves his sleep and works long hours, so when I was a SAHM I always got up with the DC. I didn't mind doing that personally, but you need to make sure that he appreciates you are doing him a massive favour and he repays it in other ways! If a lie in is really important to him then could you agree to that but make sure you get a nice block of child free time at some other point in the weekend, to spend sleeping or doing whatever you like while he takes the baby swimming or to the park or soft play for a couple of hours?

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Nevaehy12 · 24/03/2019 08:03

Theres no chance that he would do that! He will maybe go for a walk for half hour with her but that's only because he wants to take the dog for a walk (think he loves the dog more than us)! But then it's a massive favour that hes done for me!!

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Arowana · 24/03/2019 08:11

He sounds really selfish OP. You're meant to be a team.

BuckingFrolics · 24/03/2019 08:25

Why do women put up with this shit??

fc301 · 24/03/2019 08:37

He's not doing you a favour by engaging in parenting for half an hour FFS.

Lazy selfish bastard

Faster · 24/03/2019 08:41

DP who isn’t my DS’s dad will get up with him on a Saturday morning so I can have a snooze in til about 8/9. Cos he’s not an arsehole. I’ll get up on the Sunday. Or vice versa.

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