Lie ins

[Nevaehy12]

morning fellow peeps!! Just out of curiosity does anybody's partners let them have a lie in at all at the wkd? Lo is 8months and not once has he got up to feed her in the night or has he got up in the morning to let me have a little more sleep. Am I just moaning or do 'lie ins' actually exist when your a mummy??

Now DH works from home he gets up every morning (I’m pregnant though so that might factor in him being so good to me!)

We officially take turns on weekends, me sat, him sun. I'm breastfeeding so after morning feed through the week he'll take baby for a bit while he gets ready for work. He likes to have some time in the morning eating breakfast watching tv so I tend to get a extra half hour- a hour. Then he brings me a cup of tea and the baby back.

Weekends one day each but if I've been up with Ds through the night (he's 5 months) he'll often do both mornings.

I bet this is the tip of the iceberg of his selfishness, as it was with my ex. You need to tell him how selfish he is being and how it is affecting you. Mine never changed though and I wasted years exhausting myself to be treated like shit. Do you really want to be with a man who won't even make you a cup of tea?

Tbh I'm fed up! He says to me " ur the mum, that's what ur supposed to do"!!

So so angry for you right now. No words.

If he was the same with your six year old what made you think he’d be any different with a new baby? .

Yes, of course it’s not fair but I learned a long time ago that you can’t change other people’s behaviour, only your own reaction to it.

DH and I have always taken it in turns at weekends apart from the early months where DH would get up both days as DD was up a lot in the night but not until 7am in the morning so I’d be knackered (bf so he couldn’t do night feeds)

I used to wake up do a breastfed then go back to sleep while he took over

My husband is a ::shufdder:: "Morning person"

I am not. At all.

He gets up first most days that he's not working despite me being a SAHM. He even brings me a cuppa in bed.

In the school holidays he has been known to get up first every single day of them. He's always up and dressed, bright eyed and bushy tailed before I've even managed to blindly swat my hand around the bedside table seeking out the snooze button.

" ur the mum, that's what ur supposed to do"!

What. The. Fuck.

No. Tell the caveman to fuck right off with that shit.

He's a selfish git, OP.

I'm currently 29 weeks and DP has already said to me, on Saturdays you wake up and deal with baby (because he still works a Saturday), then on Sunday, I wake up with him so we both get a bit of a lie in on weekends.

That's what being a family unit is about. He's being very unfair.

Suppose I've let him get away with it.At lesst I know ive done my best for the kiddies x

We have a day each at weekends to lie in. On Saturdays dh takes kids (I’m up a lot with toddler at night) to his mums so I get a few hours on my own. He does ironing I do laundry. We take turns to shop/cook and the other clears up. Really even here weekdays as he does more work hours with him doing more at home on weekends