DH forgot my birthday

[keeponhustlin]

Feeling oh so low. DH forgot my birthday. We've been together over 30 years, said he was sorry but I really cant get over he just 'forgot'

for you and Happy Birthday

Oh no !

Didn't you mention goimg out or anything?

hes working away this weekend. Sent me a text to wish me Happy Birthday, nothing more. He knew he had forgotten on Thursday eve, today is my birthday. I'm not sad for the lack of gift or card but for the fact he hasn't thought of me.

Thank you MoniqueTonique

Happy Birthday OP.

Lucky you! I long for a forgotten birthday, think unnecessary tat, cards etc. Can't see the point of celebrating birthdays other than for kids.

It's just a day...

Same, Ariela.

He knew he forgot on Thursday?? So he actually did remember but couldn’t be bothered?
I take it you normally do something do his.
It is hurtful.

It’s not a priority for him.

Make sure his birthday is no longer a priority for you.

Do, he did remember but couldn’t be bothered to do anything? (Even if he was working away, he could have organised something via Moonpig; or similar flowers/a gift).

That’s appalling.

So, he did...

But that's what you would like Ariela not sure how that helps the op

Happy birthday hustlin

That's pretty rubbish of your dh. Does he know how much it's upset you?

Lucky you! I long for a forgotten birthday, think unnecessary tat, cards etc. Can't see the point of celebrating birthdays other than for kids.

That is the most mumsnet reply ever.

If he knew on Thursday, why on earth didn't he do something then? What a git.

Happy birthday 🎂

I always remind mine..in a jokey way l bring it up in the previous few weeks. Also now with grown up kids it's impossible for him to forget. If he is usually fine just treat yourself today and hopefully when he arrives home he will have a present for you.
If ye share finances tell him you are off to the shops today to treat yourself and go all out.

He didnt forget. He remembered on thursday and didn't even pick up his phone to arrange flowers to be delivered.

"Lucky you! I long for a forgotten birthday, think unnecessary tat, cards etc. Can't see the point of celebrating birthdays other than for kids." Sounds a bit bitter imo!

I would upset too op, I don't expect loads of gifts or anything like that, but a take away and some nice chocolate or cake or anything that is a particular favorite. Gone are the days of endless lists of goodies but a bit f thought is nice. If my husband forgot mine tbh I would be deeply hurt and feel like I mean nothing.
Op make sure he knows how hurt you are, otherwise you may grow resentful.
Happy birthday. 🎉

He didn’t forget, he remembered last minute. In this day and age of internet shopping and next day delivery there is no good reason why he couldn’t arrange a gift (which is a symbol that he cares, however much you say you don’t care about one - if that were true, his text would have been sufficient).

But he couldn’t be arsed - which is far more hurtful than him being forgetful imo.

How you tackle this is your call but I imagine that if you have been together 30 years, either you will be used to him being thoughtless or, if it is totally out of character for him, I suggest you sit him down when he gets home and explain how hurt you are and why, to prevent him thinking it is ever ok to be so inconsiderate again.

What a prick he is op, how hurtful

Where is he working? Have you consider that he might be bringing you something back from where he is tonight?

I forgot my DHs...doesn't mean I don't love him, he's great but he doesn't make a big deal of it & I just forgot on the day itself.

Is it normal to not mention your birthday at all in any conversation? Do you. Or speak to each other, plan things etc?

If you fall silent about your birthday OP then how do you expect DH to step up?

That's pretty poor. If he remembered on Thursday he could have ordered a moonpig card, some flowers, a gift with next day delivery.
Im sorry op