If your DH/DP saw you crying.. What would they do?

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So mine was unreactive and didn't get out of bed apart from saying " what's wrong"
I'd just been in a car accident and was shaken up, came into the bedroom and would have expected him to get out of bed... Hug me...?? After all, it could have been anything why I was crying..
Am I expecting too much? Just kind of hurt he didn't appear to be too concerned.
For the record, I'm not a particularly emotional person so it was out of character for me.

My dh would have been very concerned about me. Couldnt get out of bed, says it all really.

I would like to be acknowledged but, left alone

My H would have been like yours. Guess what- we're divorcing.

Mine would say ‘babe! What’s wrong?!’, rush out of bed to hug me and then worry he’d done something to upset me.

Your H sounds like an arse

He'd be very shocked first of all as it takes a lot to make me cry.

But he'd soon give me a hug, ask what's wrong and make me a cup of tea.

At first he would be very concerned but after he checked out, he didn't give a shit at all. My mum died. Didn't give a shit and just ignored me. Was out and fainted and the medics rang him He didn't care.
Almost ex DH now.

KOKO, ditto here.

He was selfish, uncaring (though banged on about how caring and giving he was and all my faults in the other direction).

With him gone, I'm emotionally healthy again for the first time since we first got together.

My ex-H wouldnt have given a shit, or else he would have found a way to make my problem all about him. My current BF would look after me and try to sort out whatever was upsetting me. Hes a good egg.

Mine would be out of bed like a shot and finding out what was wrong followed by a hug and doing what he could do to make it better. Likewise if he came in distressed I would do the same. If nothing else its kindness and compassion. Which are vital in any relationship in my opinion.

Hug me everytime I've cried he's held me and told me everything will be fine.

I had a car accident recently, husband was at his martial arts class-I tang him and he asked if I was ok,and then came home to hug me. Not getting out of bed to offer a hug is not acceptable-that would be the least mine would do

Mine would say "oh no sweetpea, are you crying?" Then "what are you upset about?" and then give me a cuddle and listen to me.

He would badger me until I told him what was wrong then tell me reasons why I shouldn't be upset, then shout at me if I point out that his reasoning isn't valid. Then I'd be crying more and he would walk out.

Tbh mine is not good with emotional stuff, he would ask what was wrong, then probably say something ridiculously stupid because he doesn't know how to react. I have no concerns about our relationship though, so maybe not helpful. After almost 20 years o know him well enough to know that reaction is about his limitations and not his love.

Mine would ask what was wrong. If I mentioned a car accident his concern would then very sharply switch to wanting to know how the car was....and every other car that may have been involved in some way.

KOKO

Mine too, as I know from experience...with a side helping of trying to point out that whatever I said I was probably in the wrong because there are two sides to every story.

How come he hadn't known before you got home that you'd been in an accident?

I find that more weird than his reaction...

Ditto @dramatical. My DH isn't the type to rush out of bed for cuddles and it would freak me out abit if he did! If he saw me crying it would go something along the lines of "why are you crying/what's wrong? explains situation oh that's not very nice, do you want me to do anything?"
It depends on your DHs usual response to emotion OP, if this is out of the ordinary then I'd be abit confused.

When I had a car accident and rang DH, his first question was asking how the car was 🙄
I’ve never really cried around him - he would just be useless. I cry privately.
When my DF passed away, DH told me to get over it - everyone loses their parents. (He lost his DF at 11yo, so maybe that hardened his view).

I’ve never cried in front of dh either. Maybe once.
He’d be very concerned and would get up straight away to find out what was wrong. I don’t think he’d hug me as I’m not very tactile so he’s got used to that.

Mine would say:

'What's wrong toots?'

Cuddle me.

'Have I upset you?'

'Who has upset you?'

In that order.

Some of your DHs sound lovely.

I'd probably get a "What's up?" and then my explanation would be swiftly interrupted by a full history of every bloody accident he's had/nearly had.

Mine would shout at me and accuse me of manipulating him.
My ducks are being lined up...

I think the last time I cried in front of DH was about 9 years ago, and he was really concerned as I rarely cry. I think it's a bad sign if your significant other can't summon up any interest when confronted with an emotional partner.

Mine got an awkward boner one time when I cried