If your DH/DP saw you crying.. What would they do?

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So mine was unreactive and didn't get out of bed apart from saying " what's wrong"
I'd just been in a car accident and was shaken up, came into the bedroom and would have expected him to get out of bed... Hug me...?? After all, it could have been anything why I was crying..
Am I expecting too much? Just kind of hurt he didn't appear to be too concerned.
For the record, I'm not a particularly emotional person so it was out of character for me.

Had he just woken up? Was it obvious you were crying? Did you tell him about the accident? I wouldn't expect my DH (if he was bewildered after just waking up) to be able to deduce immediately that I'd been in a car accident. If I'd said I was in an accident I would expect him to leap out of bed and be very concerned.

Mine isn't the "oh darling!" rushes over type either. He would just go about his day. Which is quite fair really, because if I want his sympathy I can just tell him what happened with words.

He still may not care or react, but that's a different issue I suppose.

My Ex just use to laugh, not an ounce of concern, which is why he is now my Ex.

I have cried plenty today. He gave me lots of hugs, lots of tea and sent me off out on my own for some headspace while he looked after the little buggers girls and cleaned the house.

Mine would be supportive. It would definitely involve getting out of bed, hugging me and seeing what was wrong or what he could do to help. I got some worrying news a few weeks ago and whilst I was ok, he offered to come home from work early to be with me.

My husband would rush out of bed and give me a tight hug, tell me everything will be ok and he's always here for me.
I don't cry often but when I do I need him to support me in this way because if your husband can't make you feel better then that's worrying.

My DH is crap with crying and crises. He freezes and just gets on with what he’s doing. I might get an awkward pat. He is very loving the rest of the time though, we laugh about it these days but I do put it down to his parents being very cold and disinterested with him and siblings when they were little, I just don’t think he ever learned how to respond. I also think he might be on the spectrum but undiagnosed. Fortunately he is much better with the kids, sometimes his reactions can still be a bit slow (like he needs to process ‘what do I do again’?!) but he will pick them up if they fall, hug them and comfort, or cuddle them if they’re crying about something and ask what’s up.

Mine has only seen me cry once and that was when my horse was put to sleep.

He gave me a cuddle and tried to make me feel better. The next day he took me away for 2 days somewhere lovely to cheer me up.

Same as dramatical. Mine probably would have asked "what's wrong" from the bed and stayed there unless I had been physically hurt. He just doesn't understand emotions or empathy to the same level and instead seeks to find practical solutions to the problem. I don't take offence to this though as I know that that's just how he is and isn't a reflection of his love or care. OP depends if your DH usually acts that way or not - I'm guessing that since you aren't normally emotional than he has become used to not showing empathy.

It would depend on circumstances.
Sad film - I’d get a “Soft mare. Blow your nose and stop sniffing”.
Unknown cause. He might not notice I initially. Then he’d want to know the reason and to make all well again.
A car crash, he’d probably fuss horribly. Last time I had someone plough into the back of me at a roundabout, he insisted on driving over to my meeting (about an hour away) to see if I really was OK - despite assurances I was fine and meeting being in a hospital. Bit irritating, to be honest.
Told I had cancer - tried to ‘sort everything out’ before I’d even had surgery. Likes to do something practical and take control of situation so the children and I are alright. He’d still drive four or five hours or fly to Italy if one of the children was upset and he thought he could make it better.
They do occasionally use his daft soft touches to their advantage!