Height...anyone with someone the same height or a bit shorter?

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I had a first date last night and it was great. Not only was he really friendly and polite and fun to chat with, he has a decent job and seemed (so far!) to be serious about dating and settling down. So far so good...

But he’s short. Or about the same height as me, maybe a bit shorter. I feel awkward about it! Maybe a bit shallow...anyone else experienced this?!

My husband I are both 5ft 10.

I don't wear heels anyway as I don't like to tower over everyone (that's my issue). It's never been a problem for us...why would it ?

I know, it’s silly! Just feels strange! Would defo never be able to wear heels with him but then I don’t anyway really

My partner is 1 inch taller than me, it's never bothered me but height was never high up on my criteria of things important to me in a partner.

I am four inches taller than my dh. Not a problem.

My DH is the same height as me. Shorter in some shoes. Never been an issue for me. It's never been commented on and I don't think it would be unless there was an actual height differential between a couple.

My dp and I are also both 5 10. I'm more athletic looking / long limbed than him and most folk we know will insist I am taller than him because I "seem" tall iyswim. More imposing.

It's a non issue. We can share clothes which is really useful. Also no awkward me bashing my head on his chin during sex etc.

When i do wear heels he likes it as he likes tall women in general esp long legs which heels accentuate.

But if you dont like it, you dont like it.

I will say that our first 1-2 dates I was like hmm am I ok with this? Then we shagged got better acquainted and I never thought of it again

When I was a bit younger I always thought it'd be strange being with someone the same height or shorter and that I would feel self-conscious or be sad I "couldn't" wear heels lol... then I met someone who is at most 2 inches taller than me (I am quite short) and all those worries just evaporated in light of all his good qualities and how well we get on I feel a little silly for ever worrying about it now (although having said that it's all a matter of preference and I don't think it necessarily makes you shallow or bad if it's not something that attracts you?).

Rvby that made me laugh!

It’s not an issue for me I don’t think, I was surprised at my reaction when we met though. I did find it a bit off putting.

DH shorter than me. Have the happiest marriage on earth. Don’t let something daft hold you back from something wonderful.

I feel so smug that my younger self was so wise

My sister is 5ft 11. BIL 5ft 7.

Just as well as my 2 newphews are 6ft 5, one niece 5ft 11 and the other is the short arse at 5ft 8.

Imagine if bil had been 6ft 6!!!!

I'm 5'10

Some men don't like it. Some men do!

I prefer same size or taller, but tbh if they can me laugh I'm happy 😊

Definitely would not bother me!

I'm 5'8 and for years all my bf's/partners were not much taller than me, maybe an inch or two. I always thought it didn't bother me at all. Then I met a tall man and I realised I liked feeling small! I liked I had to stretch up and kiss him. Or how he could rest his chin on my head when he hugged me! I'd always felt like a bit of a big lump when I went out with my ex's. But I felt more feminine with a tall man. Maybe I have issues! I don't know. But it's put me off dating shorter men now.

However, if you like this guy, give it a go! You have nothing to lose.

My BF is pretty much the same height as me. I actually think it's very convenient, no sore necks from reaching up or down.

If I wanted to wear heels, I would anyway. But I hadn't worn heels for years before I met him, so I don't see myself suddenly wanting to wear them now.

I'm 5ft 10 my partner is 5'8 it doesn't bother me. My ex was quite a bit shorter than me. It bothered him. His loss!

My partner and I are both around the 5'6" mark. Neither of us is shallow enough for this to bother us.

DH is 2 inches shorter than me. I'll admit that it bothers me very slightly when we first went out, but that was 25 years ago now so I seem to have got over it.

He is possibly slightly concerned about the fact our eldest daughter is in the brink of being taller than him. But he'll get used to it.

I don’t think you’re being shallow if it bothers you OP.

DH and I same height. I wear heels if I want to. Couldn't be less of an issue for us really.

My husband and I are around the same height - 5'9ish!
It's never been an issue. Sometimes he doesn't like when I wear especially high heels, but I wear them anyway, and he soon gets over it!

Remember some of the best ones are short - John snow, Tom hardy to name a Couple 😂

Yes. Been together 30 years.

Still very happy!

I'm 5'2 so anyone shorter than me would probably be called Bilbo. (not helpful)

I have 2 sets of friends where the woman is considerably taller than the man (4-6inches before heels) they are some of the happiest people I've ever met and I've never heard anyone mention it.

But at the end of the day it's up to you if it's a turn off or not.

(DP is a foot taller than me, i sometimes wonder if we look ridiculous, but even if we did it would just be another one of our quirks that made me love him more)

I am 5ft and DH is about 5'4. I couldn't care less about height but I do sometimes wish I had longer legs.

I think it's more important to get along with each other.

We’re about the same size, he’s a fraction taller. It’s handy not to have to move the seat in the car whoever is driving. And I can nick his bike!

Yes. DH is 170cm, I’m 175cm. Over 20 years together, and counting ;-)