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Height...anyone with someone the same height or a bit shorter?

48 replies

sallyshoes · 22/03/2019 14:35

I had a first date last night and it was great. Not only was he really friendly and polite and fun to chat with, he has a decent job and seemed (so far!) to be serious about dating and settling down. So far so good...

But he’s short. Or about the same height as me, maybe a bit shorter. I feel awkward about it! Maybe a bit shallow...anyone else experienced this?!

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nometal · 22/03/2019 23:03

Been married twice. Both women (5'6" & 5'9") have said that they would not have been interested if I had been shorter than them when they were wearing heels.

Not sure if you are being shallow or not OP. If you are, join the club.

LellyMcKelly · 23/03/2019 04:23

Me and my ex we’re both around 5’4”. It did t even cross my mind to be honest. I’ll date whoever I want (provided they want to date me back).

RiversDisguise · 23/03/2019 05:14

I have always fancied shortarses

Treacletoots · 23/03/2019 07:09

Genuinely can't believe anyone would even consider this an issue. Or even contune to perpetuate a stereotype that women can't be taller than men. Have a word with yourself OP. With all the abusive, cheating men in this world, a vertically challenged one is hardly an issue. And as for not wearing heels... Sounds like a dream. I hate heels.

MaidenMotherCrone · 23/03/2019 08:30

It's not shallow. If you are not attracted to someone because they are short then that's that. I'm not attracted to men shorter than me. That has a lot to do with short man syndrome though. Very off putting.

ArkAtEee · 23/03/2019 15:50

I'm short myself, but have 2 tall friends. One married taller, one married shorter, but approaching the middle of our 40's, none of us wears heels with any regularity now

Bluntness100 · 23/03/2019 15:58

Genuinely can't believe anyone would even consider this an issue

You fancy who you fancy and if you don't fancy Men smaller than you then you don't fancy men smaller than you. There is no crime in it.

amusedbush · 23/03/2019 16:14

I’ve always gravitated towards tall men (it’s a preference and people can’t help what they are attracted to!) but I did go out with a guy who was about my height. However, I’m just over 5’ 4 so not tall by any stretch of the imagination, and I didn’t like it. To be fair though, I don’t think it was helped by the fact that he was VERY thin and I was a size 16/18 so I felt like a hippo next to him So it was probably more about how I felt about myself rather than an issue with him.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 23/03/2019 16:18

I'm reasonably tall, married to a short arse man about two inches shorter. If I want to wear heels I do. He's a lovely bloke who treats me properly, so I'm not particularly bothered.

LuggsaysNotaWomen · 23/03/2019 16:26

I'm 5'9 and about an inch or so taller than my DH.

If I'm 100% honest, on purely physical attraction terms I do prefer a tall man but obviously it's not a deal breaker (although it does piss me off when he doesn't move the car seat back and I can't get into the car with my giants legs short arsed bugger that he is).

MotherOfTheNoise · 23/03/2019 17:47

Me and my husband are he same height (5'10") and it's never bothered me, I even wore heels on my wedding day! He doesn't care.

ThatFalseEquivalenceTho · 23/03/2019 18:02

I’m 5”2. ExH1 was 5”9. ExH 6”2. Current DP is 5”6. Doesn’t bother me any.

thefirst48 · 23/03/2019 18:08

I use to date someone who was a little shorter than me and it made me so paranoid when out and about. I use to stand in a position to try and make myself look smaller lol.

SMaCM · 23/03/2019 18:22

My DH thinks he's the same height as me. Everyone else knows I'm about an inch taller. I wore flat shoes at our wedding and stood downhill for photos. Other than that it's never a problem. DD is the tall one in our family.

ClaireElizabethBeuchampFraser · 23/03/2019 19:09

I'm 5'10 and dh is 5'8, we adore each other and we have a fantastic marriage fifteen years on! Dh has always been a leg man and my legs are 35" so he is delighted with my height. I never stopped wearing heels when we were first together. I'm in a wheelchair now and miss 'being tall'.

SonataDentata · 23/03/2019 20:17

I’m relatively short (5 foot 3) and prefer a man who’s taller than me at least! Having said that, I’ve madly fancied short men before. It’s only an insurmountable (ahem!) issue when they lie about it on their OLD profile. My personal record is a guy who claimed to be 5 foot 10 and we were the same height... with me in flats!

Originofstars · 23/03/2019 20:47

Same height is fine for me but shorter, no. Being called shallow for it still doesn't change my opinion. I'm very happy with a man 6 inches taller than me

lavalamp08 · 23/03/2019 20:53

I'm about 2inch taller than my husband, it's only ever bothered me once, I got some amazing 'Dick Whittington' style shoes for our wedding but towered above him so we looked stupid hence sent them back apart from that I've not had an issue

MikeUniformMike · 23/03/2019 20:57

I have done. Didn't wear heels.
I struggled with his small feet.

Bobbycat121 · 23/03/2019 22:01

It would bother me
personally. Im 5ft3 so no way would I date a man that short. I like tall men.

BigFatGiant · 23/03/2019 22:07

A dated someone a good foot shorter than me once. Not really an issue surely.

Still18atheart · 23/03/2019 22:13

Yes!!! Dates two guys who are either same size or shorter and every time I’m like does that mean I’m never going to be able to wear heels again? My height 5”6 is never something that has other me I’m pretty average. But suddenly feel like I’m a giant.

makkmiss · 23/03/2019 23:43

I’m 5’4 and DH is 5’6 and like a pp, I appear taller than I am due to long limbs and a long neck. I won’t lie, when we first met in real life (after talking online for a while) my first immediate thought was ‘omg he’s so short’ and I later found out that he thought I was too tall on the first date! after a few dates and realising how much I loved him, It no longer bothered me. We got married quite quickly after meeting and the most stressful thing about the wedding was finding heels that wouldn’t make me look too tall wouldn’t change him for the world now even though all previous guys I’ve liked have been over 6’

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