What will happen if I call the police? I don’t know what to do?

[GremlinDolphin1]

I am in the middle of divorcing emotionally (sometimes physically) abusive h, long marriage etc. Finally got my act together end of last year but still living together.

I went to bed st 11.30 and at 12.30 he came in and started shouting at me very close up, pulled duvet off me, calling me unrepeatable names, pushed my shoulder into the bed, ddc (teenagers) woke up and asked him to stop. He then hit me across the face. He followed me to another room and continued going on at me.

I am now in another room, can’t stop shaking and don’t know what to do. He is still awake as I can see the light under the door.

My youngest dd 14 is very vulnerable (CAMHS) and hates this and I am so worried now.

Would it make things worse if I called the police now? In the morning? What would they do? I can’t do anything until he is asleep anyway.

Any thoughts or wise words?

Hope you have a wonderful and peaceful night. You are super brave and strong. Don't feel sorry for him. What he was doing was wrong. He wasn't sorry. XX

Thank you all for your encouraging comments!

I’ve been thinking about it today and apart from just being professional and so lovely, the wonderful thing was that the police just took the situation from me and dealt with it which was so needed.

If the person I first spoke to on the phone had asked me whether someone should come out now or did I want to wait until the morning then I would probably have wavered.

Well done OP.

You've set your DC a great example of strength .

Onwards and upwards.

OP! You amazing strong lady! You should be so proud of yourself mama, you protected you and your children last night. WELL DONE!

Well done

Very well done lass.

It's your first step towards a free life, for you and for your children.

Well done! You’ve been brilliant!

Wel done, you've done the right thing,

Amazing update OP.

As someone who went through it too and came out the other side, I want to give you these

Well done OP. It must take a lot of strength to do that. Keep remembering what the police said to you, you didn't do it to him, he did it to himself.

Good for you OP. Hopefully this thread will help other women who are in a similar situation.

Well done OP. I hope this will inspire others who wonder whether calling the police is the right thing.

Well done Gremlin. It took courage to call the police. I hope things start to improve for you and your children.

Well done, you have been a star for your children. I'm so glad that the police helped you. Thinking of you and willing you on

Wow - shout out the the police for rising to the occasion and - as you say - taking the decision out of your hands, and really making it clear that the situation was HIS doing not yours.

Hold on to that.

OH and give that policewoman a medal

Well done OP well done xx

Well done, op. Your post will undoubtedly help others.

Wishing you a very happy future xxx

Hi I just looked for my original post and thought I’d update it.

Too many details would be outing as it’s been one hell of a time but the children and I are in now in our own new home and it’s calm, respectful and loving.

I so appreciate those of you who were with me that horrible night for all your words of encouragement. He was convicted of common assault and despite the lies he told and his barristers best efforts to discredit me, the judge summed up that he had no doubt my evidence was honest and genuine.

For anyone in a similar situation, try not to leave it as long as I did before you do something, people will believe you, the police are amazing, there is brilliant specialised support available and finally - going to court is grim but you can do it. Xxxx

That's fantastic to hear! I remember this post and I'm so glad you and your kids were helped x

Am so pleased to read your update.
Calm, respectful and loving is priceless!!
Definitely an inspirational story. Am so pleased you took action and were well supported xxx

It’s lovely to read your update and I’m glad you and your children are happy in your new home.

I never read your original post but it’s so encouraging to read for others especially the positive reaction of the police. So often we hear of times when they don’t help but they certainly sound as if they handled your situation superbly. So bravo to those officers.