Yes used the Charles and Camilla names because my neighbour always referred to her as Camilla and I didn’t want to choose initials etc that I would forget to use and Camilla, well, went with Charles didn’t it!
So thanks to those who are on these bored to see the seriousness of these problems rather than troll them to belittle, make fun of and simply to be down right rude to those in trouble.
Yes, I am bonkers. I actually have seen how controlling he has been of me (and our little ones) for years.
I have spoken to so many people with words of wisdom and support (and surprisingly I have been contacted by a few from their work place - yes, they began as colleagues!!) who have told me that superiors are aware (apparently this is a bad thing? Especially as I also found out Charles was asked direct by a line manager and he lied - not good apparently) and the whole place (a good 700 people though exaggeration if that many knew!) know what they have done and are disgusted, calling them bastards. Poison tart, conniving, manipulative bitch etc.
Support has been tremendous!
Also his entire family have disowned him. His other rang HR St his company! (I will say, I have NOT had any contact with his company nor have I told anyone else to do the same! Bless them all; they all did it off their own back)
So the finding out went like this:
Sunday:
Charles goes to see my mother to tell her first as he wanted her down at our house to shelter the fallout from our children aged 7 and 4.
He tells me it’s over. I ask if there is someone else. He says yes, I said Camilla and he said yes. He was VERY cagey as tonwhen it began. Claimed he cannot remember (he has been deleting texts for a VERY long time plus Camilla always had access to his phone - works phone - whereas I never did!) So three hours of a long chat and he decides he DOES want to make a go of it. He actually said there was no sexual relations between them. 
That night he shows me a text that Camilla sent: I have hurt myself but I have people round me to stop me from killing myself. We spoke for an hour (?) about how best to reply. I told him it was emotional blackmail due to him telling her it was over with her, and he wanted to save his marriage. That night bot od is tossed and turned.
Monday: He went to work. Mum came to talk to me about what he said. I was livid. He said he never envisaged himself as a family man and that he was going to give me £200,000 to buy a ‘little house’ in our village near my mum and Camilla would move into our martial one with HIS mother in the annexe like she was ‘last of the fucking manner’ - no prizes as to how that was responded too. I will say by this time I HAD remained level headed and calm. Then Charles arrives home and tells me it was over between us! Half expected him to say that Camilla was in hospital. Dammit!!!! So I hit the roof. Told
Him what he stood to lose etc. He had a chat with my mum and came back after an out wanting to make a go at it marriage again! 
We we’re going to go for a coastal walk to talk when he showed me a text that read: fuck fuck fuck. Never contact me again. So I said okay as it showed his reply of: sorry 100% it can never work. So we talked, came home and went to bed. I woke at midnight and by 4am we had BOTH been up taking for four hours. During that time it came out that the ‘affair’ actually went as far back as October 2018 - a time when he pushed me and bruised my arms. He now admitted that yes, they had ‘raised’ it again back then and it was a catalyst for his violence. Then later on he actually admitted it started two years go - March 2017 - when Camilla broke off with Andrew. I have since found out that Charles wrote a financial agreement for Andrew to sign to hand the house over to Camilla - about £32,000 went to Andrew. I knew nothing of at the time. He also told me he didn’t see himself as a family man. He loved us both and LIKED the two lives he was having. 
During this time i KNEW he wanted ME to end it rather than him, so he didn’t have the guilt of actually ending the marriage despite it being ended due to his adultery and behaviour. I kept telling him, I am not a quitter and do not give up so easily and want us to be together and be a family; I can’t switch off love!!!!
Tuesday:
He comes downstairs to tell me he is ending it with Camilla. He seemed sure but something in his eyes told me otherwise. He wanted to see her face to face to appease her and me (?!?!) I said I couldn’t stop him but made him swear on his children’s lives he was ending it with her and I said if ihe doesn’t it would be the end.
He rings me en route saying Camillas friend Patsy (sorry, don’t know Camillas friends! 😂) has rang to say she was in a bad way and needed the GP out. Charles said he would end it and stay until someone was with her. I was not convinced. But messaged my husband that I had a GP appointment later that week (not sleeping) and I wish Camilla no harm - how daft of me! Two hours later, I sat with his mother and said indodn’t Have a good feeling. Sure enough 15 seconds later he rang my mobile to end it AGAIN with me! Cue screams, shouts, slammed phone down, texts flying back .. I told him to get his stuff which took him 8’hours cos he was scared of me! 
I wasn’t or have any intention of harming him. I didn’t want to see him. His stuff was in bags and draped on our gate in the driveway. It was my artistic impression of GO TO HELL! Anyways, children came home. Seven year old broke his heart when I told him in child speak that daddy didn’t want to live with us anymore but reassured him that daddy still loves him and his little sister. I asked him if he wanted to see his daddy and he said yes so when Charles has packed his Mercedes Benz (this is relevant) he saw the children on the drive. I have also by this point made it public about their afffair and how Charles and I are not together.
Wednesday: I get tens of messages of support. Surprisingly from his work place from people I would never expect. I was also told Camilla was back at work and swanning around like she was a Cheshire Cat who got the cream. So much for needing a GP the day before after her failed ‘suicide’ mission I was then told that several people had went to HR to complain about it (apparently he lied to a line manager and it brings the company into disrepute). Camilla has never been well liked for years as she has form for being investigated for relations on site and bullying. In all cases, nothing could be proved. She DID have a nice side to her but it wasn’t whonshe really was. She is massively controlling, loud, an exhibitionist and over the last two years she has become diet, appearance and selfie obsessed especially with snapchat. I always TBH and thought that’s just her! But all the while her diet,
Appearance change, fitness regime, her forcing herself into Charles hobbies etc (and the stripping off in front of him) was all a way to flirt,
Flaunt and to basically tens to the primal Male instinct!
There’s no WAY they managed to remain celibate towards each other in two years.
Charles often spent ‘weekends’ at her house (no over nights) doing her decking, car port, downstairs loo etc. I honestly thought he saw her and a friend and that actually Charles would NEVER betray me
Or deceive me ...
So I had a solicitors meeting Wednesday. I won’t go into it by there was a lot of eyebrow raising and despite me looking likely to Ben massively financially better off without him, the solicitor could see I was not 90% sure I wanted a divorce. So I came away confused.
I will admit this: I do think Charles was backed into a corner by Camilla. Charles said there was no
sex and when he told me this on Sunday I believed him and told him I did (slap me now!) Camilla then told Charles that I would find out and lies always get found out (her way of subtly saying she - meaning me -
Will end our marriage if sex took part) so he thought I have no choice; Camilla it is. THIS is why I want to say to him; even if you have planned this for two years, Camilla has being periodically pushing you for a decision even though you have been having second thoughts, and you HAVE had sex. Despite all that one LAST chance to save us. Now you can see that you can come back and not be ruled, persuades or under the spell of that conniving little madam. But if i don’t get an answer by the time I meet with my solicitor, divorce proceedings WILL go ahead.
Charles always said she has form for this - his words. She has been unfaithful in past relations before she met Andrew, she was probably being unfaithful with Charles whilst married to Andrew, she was seeing the brother of a best friend and then supposedly a 50 year old who left his wife and family last week for her when she text Charles and basically said it’s the 50 year old unless you want to come with me.
I doubt there was a 50 year old.
I think he was made up or the poor
guy that it was (apparently a sub contractor) was used in her little game to force Charles into a corner.
He’s no angel in playing us off! Also the slashed arms or whatever I think was a lie as was Patsy calling and the GP visit.
You don’t swan about at work 48 hours after a supposed suicide attempt or 24 hours after needing a GP home visit. The reason it took 2
Years is because Camilla couldn’t
Afford a divorce from Andrew in 2017 so waited until now (Andrew has told me they divorce next month). She has planned this and pushed Charles to stick with it -
All the time he has made love to me,
Planned holidays, lived together, planned household stuff (summer house), lived as a family and he has KNOWN what he was aiming for. He admitted that he loved our house and it is important to him - more than me. I said a burnt house can be rebuilt but families cannot. Family is important to me and I told him that
- but he just went on about the house. He told everyone at work that he was going to move Camilla into the family home. He wants 50/50 kids!! I am the primary care giver plus he never does any parenting at all! I am talking bedtimes, baths etc and he has to be forced to parents evenings anndhe doesn’t attend school
Events either. He never assigns days off for them. He doesn’t read with them, do homework, play, take them to their friends parties and as babies
he never fed them, changed them, clothed them, tended to them whilst sick (I did it even when I had a strep throat with a temp of 39.9 -
I remember) and he never bought them clothes etc or involved in Xmas unless it was a Jeep, drone,
Quad bike or tool box for the eldest - figure that one out! He wants 50/50 because he reckons he won’t pay maintenance which he is VERY mistaken on. I want full custody.
Charles now has a joint income of £110,000 to my part time salary. Between them they have four cars -
2 jags, a Mercedes Benz and a Land Rover. They have her 5 bed house for now. They want our marital home because it’s bigfer, they have their wine making hobby here plus our indoor swimming pool. Charles spoke about how he missed our cruise days and holidays as a couple. Now they get to enjoy all that.
It’s aboit money and status and being child free. I was never good enough for him.
When I first met him he always wanted a white glide. He found our family home and I always knew he was actually emotionally attached to it more than he was me. I think I have been a means to an end. My full time salary at the time helped him with what he wanted and now I am part time, he is flattered by this woman’s attention he has everything he wants. I was enquiring about going full time in September and he even mentioned to my mum that it would lighten the financial burden on me - more likely he wouldn't have to fork out as much money to me! But due to his choices, it’s forced me to have to remain part time as I am and will be the main primary care giver.
I feel so cheated and used by Charles. 14 years of deceit.
It’s divorce. I just need now hand holding through all this and wisely advice along the way.
He never did love me. I am now on sleeping pills. Tonight’s would have worked IF it hadn’t been for my four year old waking me at 2am. Oh well, tomorrow night it might be better.