Hi lovelies,
Just seeking some advice if I may. This may be quite graphic though. I am sorry in advance.
I have a gut feeling that my boyfriend is gay. I just want to know what your thoughts are, as I have not been able to discuss this with many people. I don't even have hard evidence, just a gut feeling. And then when I think about things, it could make sense.
Although I have asked him, and he got very defensive and yelled NO I AM NOT GAY.
The signs: Before me, he had never been able to commit to a long relationship, stating that he was just used and abused and got hurt. I basically soon found out (After in depth conversations with his mum) that he was actually the one to end the majority of the relationships.
Prior to our 3 years together, his longest relationship was about 8 months. (We are both 30)
Anyway, the first year was rocky. One minute he didn't want to commit, and the next he did. He was yoyo'ing me around quite a bit (Dont ask me why I stuck around!!)
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Now, he had an obsession with sending and receiving nude pictures. Quite common nowadays, but he generally loved sending me pics of his penis and videos. (I was not too keen, but did go along for fun)
This suggested that he was very sexually active.
Now, when it came to actual sex. The first time he struggled to mantain an erection. And the second time was, I guess boring. He didn't touch me, . It was all one sided. I guess it was also pretty quick. 3 years later, and there's no change. He has been down on me maybe twice, despite me telling him this was my favourite thing. He has quite frequently struggled to maintain an erection.
Now, he is very vocal during sex. But what he likes to talk about is how his penis feels in my mouth for example. ''Does it feel big, does it feel hard, tell me how it feels in your mouth'' etc.
He is also quite into anal, and licking that area (I am not) In fact, he tried to lick that area months before he even considered going down on me!!!!
Regarding porn - I do not know what he likes, but I do recall seeing a search history entry for a porn star name with black cock anal.
OK, that's the gross stuff out of the way!
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The other signs. He always spoke about his best friend. For the first year I hadn't met him. But the boyfriend spoke about him all the time and they had their sleepovers. When he spoke about him, it was passionate. He used to say how much he loved him etc etc.
Now, when I finally got to meet the best mate, the boyfriend was very touchy feely with him. Touching his arm when he spoke, bumping his hip into him etc. Hugging him before sleeping. They could just be close but yeah.
Another thing, is whenever an attractive guy comes on the TV, he always mentions it and never the females. ''Oh he's a hunk'' etc.
There was one weekend, where my father was in a pub and the boyfriend was in there with another one of his friends. My father said they were acting gay. (I had never mentioned my suspicions before this)
So there's the jist of it. If he is gay, he must be closested (His father wouldn't like it)
Although he may just be that way. Could you give your advice?
Thank you!