Actually shocked at what an idiot I am...

[Redfronts]

DP and I haven’t been getting along, so today I asked for him to leave the house for a week, so I can think about what I want to do.
He response was “This is my house, so you can go”. Then it hit me, I’m not on the deeds of the house, so I questioned him about it, and now find out he hasn’t put me on the council tax either.
That means that if we separated I would walk away with nothing.
Been together 15 yrs and have 3 kids. Also, keeps promising to get married and we never do.
I’ve been a complete fool and I’m so angry with myself.
I insisted I wanted my name on the house immediately. He said “start paying half the mortgage and you can” knowing that’s not possible as I’m a full time carer for our disabled son.

@zsazsajuju

I agree. For me, however, 50:50 shared care awarded to an abusive controller had the worst impact financially (and of course, emotionally).

Just wanted to give an update. We’ve booked the church for next year and getting married.

Thank goodness OP.
I hope he's stepping up now and realising how much you contribute to family life.
Well done!

Get some legal advice:
Have you had any bills in your name? I'm guessing your bank account has been at that address with benefits going in from the govt for your son?......proof of address and the fact that you have a son that is disabled might help you to stay at the house. The courts won't look on it favorably that he's not looking out for his son!!
All is not lost.....get legal advice. Xx

What good news, OP. You must be delighted - and relieved.

Congratulations good luck for the future

Excellent news and congratulations
I hope you won't mind me asking as he has made it clear he doesn't think you have any rights to the house as you don't financially input, wouldn't you prefer the security of perhaps of the wedding being sooner rather than later and perhaps reduce the opportunity for him to change his mind....what's made him suddenly change his mind after 15 years...your still not in a position to financially input into a mortgage
I suppose I'm wondering i get the security it will give you but what's in it for him

So you're marrying him to get rights on the house? But you have to tolerate him for another year first?

Will he be actually doing some childcare so you can work on your earning potential in the meantime?