Getting over infidelity

[lools192]

I am just wondering if any of you would like to share some of your stories. Have you ever found your husband/partner to have had an affair/one night stand/messaging others and you have been able to forgive and stay together?

I ask as I am going through the devastating heartbreak of finding out my fiancé has had a one night stand, whilst I was pregnant with our child. Not only that but dating sites, sneaking out, all sorts that you could never imagine your fiancé would do!

Anyway, I am in the process of looking to sell our house and right now I feel like my option is to get the hell away from him.

However, just out of interest I am wondering if anyone has experienced anything like this and you have stayed together and are now happy?? Or did it go the other way?

I know most of you may not be following this thread anymore but I thought I'd update you. Because to be honest, just writing about this helps me (even if no ones listening)

He's gone. I ended it.

He didn't try, he got bored of listening to me cry and told me to "get over it" then, he did it again.

The day he left I cried all night, but now it's stopped. I feel sad for the life I thought I had but I feel so relieved he's gone.

I'm thinking positive and just focusing on the best future for me and my daughter!

Thanks everyone for your advice! Wish you all the best!

It might not feel like it right now but that’s a GOOD thing, lools.

I find it really sad that so many women are posting about “when I found out this happened” and then going on to say he’s remorseful and trying.

Because even if it’s out of character and a mistake, it was still happening and would have continued had he not been caught! So how remorseful could he be, really??

You and your daughter will be just fine.

Well done lools! You've got this xx

Forgave her first time. Didn't forgive the second time. Biggest mistake was forgiving the first, and continuing to be emotionally manipulated. Don't be me.

@SkinnyPete Same story here. Forst time I was pregnant with our second child and found out he'd had a ONS. We had one child under 2 and one on the way so I just didn't see any other option but to 'forgive' him. Second and last time was 18 months ago when I found out he was having an affair with someone 12 years younger at work. His bag was packed when he got home from work that day.

As far as I'm aware, it took him 10 years to do it again but he did. My belief is that you either have it on you to cheat or you don't but once you have done it once I'd be very surprised if you didn't do it again.

My trust has been broken as a result and I will never be as naive in future relationships that just because someone says they love you its true and they won't break your heart in a second.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope you find happiness x

Good luck going forward 💐