Is my GF being immature?

[Gudzippo]

My GF has questioned me tonight on why I follow a girl on Instagram from her home
town who is a friend of a friend of hers.... I searched the name and literally got no idea who the hell it is or why I follow them! Must of been a random follow from years ago when I was single!

she’s making out it’s not a problem but I can sense it’s bothered her and since she’s been very blunt and short with me? I know she will “punish” me by being short and blunt with texts tomorrow.. she already cut me short on txt tonight saying she was off to bed. this is clearly an insecurity for her but surely unfair to treat me like this when I’ve done nothing wrong!!

It may be nothing wrong, but if she is insecure, maybe you could try to make her feel better about it?
It’s good it was a meaningless addition!

Yes, she's being immature.

Ugh. Dump and find yourself an actual adult woman.

She sounds like a drama queen. It won’t get any better

Thanks for some responses. Even after saying goodnight she was up posting on Facebook. She’s been very off with me this morning too.. any ideas what I should or say? Or should I not bring it up and just try have a normal convo? I hate having conflict. This is making me feel incredibly anxious and uncomfortable.

You’ve tried, you’re not in the wrong here.

Give her some space and enjoy yourself

Just ignore her.
Please don't grovel or apologise anymore.
You've done nothing wrong.
She's behaving like a child.
You do not reward that behaviour.

You ignore it.
Wait until she contacts you.
But really..... Do you want this to be your life?
It's exhausting and soooooo not worth it!
Really do consider your future with this child woman!

If you're who I think you are, this relationship brings you far more anxiety than anything positive.

Seriously, end it. You aren't right for each other.

must of* been a random follow from when I was single
*have

Yeah totes believable.

Yes she is being immature. No she shouldn’t be sulking at you for a like from heavens knows when.

She’s obviously insecure. You need to decide if you can accept this jealous and insecure part of her character or move on. For heavens sake don’t try to mollify with apologies and deleting people as it’s not right for her to seek to control in that way.

No-one likes a sulker. Or a 'punisher'.

You don't say who long you've been together or how old you are, but she sounds very insecure.

Does she mind you having other female friendships?

You had a life before you met her. She needs to understand this. I would tell her she is behaving like a jealous child. People like this, if they find one thing that upsets them try to seek out other things and she is likely to start checking up on you and it will all snowball into huge trust and jealousy issues.

Let her come to you.

Thank you for the replies guys. I haven't outright said "sorry" to her at all as i don't feel i have anything to be sorry for. I just simply explained to her that I have no idea who that is.. heck I dont know half the people that follow me on Instagram! - The follow would have been yonks before we even met eachother!!! She is just being very cold towards me.. it's not been brought up since last night but I can just sense it from her tone of message. She's talking to me very sharpish and not being remotely warm towards me. I'm 24 shes 23... I'm not grovelling towards her, just simply replying to her if she does message me. I know she has paranoia and we've spoken about it before ... How long till she snaps out of this and atleast calls me babe again in a text lol!!?

Probably pretty soon..... until the next time!

How exhausting, I think you need another conversation and she needs to really have a think about her behaviour. Even if it does stem from her insecurities she'll end up driving you away which will only confirm her feelings - a downward spiral.

Very exhausting indeed. She passed a few messages on her lunch break saying how works been okay as “there’s a guy from my old uni working today and he’s really nice so it’s decent” - is this her trying to wind me up? Or just a general passing comment? I’ve been an anxious wreck bag all day.

She's trying to make you jealous.

This is really childish.

Don't rise to it. Honestly, you're better than this.

Exhausting is an understatement.

In my response I didn't rise to it, I basically said something like "aw thats cool makes the day go better!" and continued on with the rest of the text. I'm feeling very insecure and uneasy about all of this... Do I just continuing responding as if im fine?

Yes you do, don't give her the satisfaction of showing any of this is upsetting you.
Really though where will the jealously lead to if she gets unhinges over a simple 'follower'
Is this something you want to live with, it will only get worse.

Personally, I would ask to see her for a chat later. When you meet thrush out with her calmly that you followed people in your single days these peeps hAve no relevance in your life now.

Explain that she needs to have a coping method in place to deal with her paranoia and explain how she has made you feel.

If you've got any sense you'll be bored of all that negative game playing soon enough. I expect there'll be another girl from your very distant past that she will complain about sooner rather than later.

Very immature.

I'm 23 and there is no way I would text my BF being off with him because he follows girls on Instagram!

If she trusted you she wouldn't be looking through your Instagram followers anyway... this is very unhealthy.

How long have you been together OP? Have you ever done anything to make her question you?

Just text as normal and don’t rise to anything.

Honestly life’s too short to have someone playing games of being cold, trying to make you jealous and questioning ridiculous things. If this was a man acting that way towards a woman mums net would be screaming it’s red flag behaviour, controlling and emotional abuse. Low level maybe but how long have you been together? Is this the start of it getting worse?