Generally an all round nice guy. Kind, fun, generous etc.
However, I am starting to think there are control issues.
Some examples;
We have a day out to somewhere we've never been before, all agreed to get a taxi home. I call a local taxi firm to meet us at the train station and tell him the name of the firm. When we get off the train and the cab isn't waiting. I say I'll give it 5 mins and then call them. He gets agitated, tries to get into other peoples taxi's despite me having already asked the drivers if they were booked for us. I tell him I'm nipping to the loo. He says angrily he'll phone the taxi company. I come out of the loo, I ask him what the cab company said, he snaps at me that it's my job to phone them. I phone them, ascertain how far away the cab is and get things sorted. He is literally on fire with anger at this point. We get in the cab and he refuses to talk all the way home.
He likes to book everything and be in control, so I initially thought it was because I had dealt with this particular trip but when he does deal with things and similar issues crop up, he then snaps at me anyway!. But he gets more annoyed when I deal with anything and it isn't 100% perfect.
We are on holiday and using the tourist open top bus. We get off and have lunch. All really lovely. He suggests we enjoy a stroll to the next bus stop. We walk for a while but can't find the next bus stop. He starts getting angry. Asks me what we should do and I say I will do whatever he thinks is best but I would probably just admit defeat and walk back to the original bus stop. He gets really angry, tells me I'm in a bad mood (I'm not, I deliberately stay quiet to try and appease him!) and even when I realise I had pointed out exactly where the bus stop was and I was right and he ignored me and he was wrong, I say nothing. I tell him it doesn't matter and we have all day and have enjoyed a nice extra walk. He just sulks and refuses to talk to me for nearly an hour.
Most of these issues are travel related. He's been really rude to hotel receptionists if he can't understand them and I think literally can't hear when he becomes stressed. There is a constant dialogue of "pardon" and tutting said in a aggressive way. I've tried raising my voice so he can hear me but then he accuses me of shouting. (I'm not).
He honestly treats me like a child and he places no value on my input in these situations.
When he left his mobile on a tourist bus, I was straight onto sorting it out and got it back for him. All I could feel was relief that I had foiled another of his bad moods! Rather than relief he'd got his phone back!
I have tried talking to him about it and he either gets angry and tells me it's me being in a bad mood and not him. (Honestly, everyone tells me what a calm person I am, whereas he is "known" for his snappiness) The other thing he does is pretty much dismiss my concerns as irrelevant.
It's got to the point where I honestly don't want to go anywhere with him now because if it's not 100% perfect, I am walking on eggshells. Invariably I'm in public with him and trying to keep up appearances.