Question about emotional affair

[Blueflower22]

Emotional affair -

Why is it bad if a married man has an emotional connection to another women who is his 'friend' surely this can be the same as an emotional connection to male friends? The only difference is gender.

Yes, as @Unguent says, I would move on with my life without him. Besides his ongoing relationship with his ex, there are a myriad of other issues that indicate incompatibility.

Do you realize that if his feelings for the OW are indeed unresolved, he will not just admit that to you. They will carry over into your marriage, just as they are the elephant in the room now.

In my opinion, you are sabotaging your life by sticking with this relationship.

Hey everyone, I spoke to him about it and he firmly said that there's nothing going on and that he's not going to fall into an emotional relationship with her as that's not his intention and he's intention is on being with me. He said they talk about random things like what there doing and what they are eating and drinking and he said that she snaps him and all her contacts so that's why he replies. And that I should trust that nothing will happen between them. I've just left it like that as I don't have proof that there is an emotional attachment and if there is in the future then I'm sure the truth will come out.

I don't have proof that there is an emotional attachment and if there is in the future then I'm sure the truth will come out

But in the meantime, you may have wasted years of your life on a man who's still holding a torch for his ex. You seem more concerned that he'll think you don't trust him, or that he'll think your controlling than in the potential waste of your time and emotional energy on someone who, frankly, doesn't seem to be 'free' for a relationship.

I suspect you're hoping that it will all cut off abruptly when she actually marries, aren't you?

@Unguent well not really actually. I'm not thinking that the contact will stop. I'm just thinking that there's no way to tell if anything dodgy is going on so I can't do anything about it and am going to leave it and believe in what he's saying.

He’s not going to fall into an emotional relationship with her.

He has already been in love with her, and they never really broke up like others do.

I wish you the best, Blue, but I think you are in denial. In the meantime, he is not complying with your ttc. You have multiple problems with him.