HOW TO GET MY KIDS FATHER BACK

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PLEASE HELP ME GET MY FAMILY BACK LIKE IF WAS I WAS CHEATING ON HIM AND HE FOUND OUT AND LEFT ME WE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 11YEARS AND HAVE 2 KIDS TOGETHER WE BEEN BROKE UP FOR A YEAR AND HE HAVE A GIRLFRIEND I LOVE HIM SO MUCH DO YOU THINK HE STILL LOVE ME OR IS THERE A WAY WE GOING TO GET BACK TOGETHER I MISS HIM SO MUCH I WILL DO ANYTHING TO GET HIM BACK

ok i have to do that i try to go out with other people but its not the same

it sounds like you are doing really well.you say he is asking you for sex and you have been turning him down.that's good.altho you want him,giving him sex whilst he is wish someone else is going to make you feel crap about yourself and make him think really badly of you.stay strong.he is just trying to see how far you will go to get him back.
how old are your children? can you try and distance yourself from him? not get into discussion with him other than about the children? even if you can't go out at night, do you meet people in the day - do you work?

thats the whole point of it.listen i went through a similar situation as you a few years back, i did get back together with my dp but the break up wasnt at all as bad.I hated being on my own and going out having to explain to people what happened, but you have to deal with it, its seriously a big part in your healing process.you will be fine......trust me

my kids are 7and 8 i will try to get over him and yes i work but when im lonely i think about him and i call him and he tell me to stop calling him

ok i will try but do you think we will get back together

is he giving you any encouragment? i mean,other than asking you for sex, is he saying he wants to get back together? what does he say about the woman he lives with?

i honestly dont know???????.It really seems to me that hes enjoying keeping you dangling by the thread. do as he says and stop ringing.the best thing for you to do at this moment in time is to sit down with him and just say that you should just be contacting each other in concern with the children NOTHING ELSE.....if its too painful for you to see him then y dont you just ask him to pick the kids up at ur mums for the time being, just to give yourself time to heal.I really belive that once you get the ball back in your side of the court things will turn out better.

he dont talk about her i asked him yesterday do he love her and he couldnt tell me nothing and i ask him do he still have feeling for me he said he have feeling for me but care he dont no

he picks the kids up at my mum house

i promise he will be pissed if you call his bluff and leave him alone and get on with your life,does this other woman have a clue that hes been asking you for sex

i told her and she said im lieing

you see he will be making out that your some evil deranged bunny boiler, lying to destroy his new relationship, and she will belive him.you need to take a step on the ladder, its a long way up but u will never get to the top if you dont try )

i will try

If he's trying to get you to have sex with him, his relationship to her cannot be ideal, can it?

However he is not giving you signals you could reasonably interpret as wanting to get back together, ie saying he doesn't care, and telling you not to call him. Write down those kind of comments of his down and place them under/next to your phone so you don't call him again when you're low. Come on here instead

I don't know that getting back together is the best thing for you. However if that is the clear aim, strategically speaking you are not going about it the right way. I'm not great at these games but I'd imagine you have to give the impression you are strong and happy and enjoying life and getting on just fine without him. He would also probably be more likely to want to live with you if he thought it was going to be pleasant, therefore the arguments are not helpful.

Maybe though when the grieving phase you are currently in is past - and it generally does pass, you may not want to be with him.

Good luck.