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HOW TO GET MY KIDS FATHER BACK

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 14:31

PLEASE HELP ME GET MY FAMILY BACK LIKE IF WAS I WAS CHEATING ON HIM AND HE FOUND OUT AND LEFT ME WE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 11YEARS AND HAVE 2 KIDS TOGETHER WE BEEN BROKE UP FOR A YEAR AND HE HAVE A GIRLFRIEND I LOVE HIM SO MUCH DO YOU THINK HE STILL LOVE ME OR IS THERE A WAY WE GOING TO GET BACK TOGETHER I MISS HIM SO MUCH I WILL DO ANYTHING TO GET HIM BACK

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 14:48

he be wanting sex but i dont give it to him because he cant have 2 girls im not that other girl

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SSSandy2 · 08/07/2007 14:48

oh I see he has been living with her for a year since leaving you. That doesn't sound too good tbh

madmarchhare · 08/07/2007 14:49

Tough, but its now your responsibility to make your kids happy. They dont have to be unhappy just because he isnt around. Maybe easier said than done I know, but, dont let them see you moaning on and on about it.

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 14:50

he moved with her bout 4 mouth ago

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 14:51

thats true

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 14:57

how can i get over him

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suezee · 08/07/2007 14:58

you need to realise thats its not just that easy to get back with someone wen so many things have happened.say you did get back together, do you think that you would be able to get over the fact that he moved on with this other woman?????????, i know that it hurts at the moment but you need to sort out the relationship you have together as parents at this moment in time. if its meant to be then its meant to be, just dont wait around get on with your life and see how it turns out )

SSSandy2 · 08/07/2007 15:00

To me it sounds as if he is not treating you with respect at the moment and you say you felt neglected in your marriage so I wonder how happy you would be if you were back together. Although I understand you are very unhappy now.

peanutbear · 08/07/2007 15:02

get out, do something to make yourself feel good new hair cut etc

meet friends and go out and enjoy yourself

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 15:02

i will get over that you have a girl i just have to move on with my life like he told me he said he dont want me no more

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 15:03

i think if we get back together thing will go good because we been throught alot

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 15:05

i try to do that but i dont go out i dont have that in me im allway at my family house and all they say is i missed up i no i did but i dont need no one telling me that i had a good man

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peanutbear · 08/07/2007 15:07

doesnt have to mean you will do the same inanother relationship though

If you move on with your life he might see whats hes missing or get jealous if not you will know for definate hes not interested

suezee · 08/07/2007 15:08

Well call his bluff and get on with your life then,he will be secretly gloating to himself that he has 2 women falling over him,i think it unfair of him to be saying he doesnt want you yet to expect sex. this man is just trying to have the best of both worlds and you r the one suffering for it

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 15:09

every thing he doing to me i did it to him it just coming back on me

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 15:10

i no thats why i dont have sex with him no more

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suezee · 08/07/2007 15:11

i know that theres no excuse for you to do what you did, but things happen it takes two people to make and break a relationship your actions may have ended but your affair started due to the problems that where already there.

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 15:20

im always asking myself why i did that how can i

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suezee · 08/07/2007 15:26

i really do feel sorry for but you made a mistake, beating yourself up after a year of being apart is just no good for you.You realy need to make the best out of a shitty situation for yourself and ur children.I really think you should get a sitter and go out with friends for a night out and let ur hair down,i know u feel like everyithngs just fallen apart but only you can make your life better

TaylorsMummy · 08/07/2007 15:28

i don't understand your situation completely. are you saying he asks you for sex even tho he is living with someone else? it sounds to me as tho he is trying to degrade you - make you feel like you made him feel. i can't see any future in it cos the trust is gone but that's without knowing the full story

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 15:34

i try to do that but every where i go some body no me of being with him thats why i dont go nowhere because he paint cars so every body no him

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 15:35

thats true

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suezee · 08/07/2007 15:35

i agree with you taylors mummy,he is hurting her the only way he knows how to and thats to degrade her, he is literally flaunting everything in your face and you are just sitting there letting him emotionally whip you.

suezee · 08/07/2007 15:37

just go out and i f anyone comes up to you just say "we arent together anymore and i dont want to get into it" you need to build your sef confidence back up :0

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QUNDA · 08/07/2007 15:38

how can i get out of it

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