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Has anyone ever forgiven their husband for using prostitutes

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Chargertest · 03/03/2019 08:06

I'm two years post discovery. I can see the effort being put in and I have access to everything so I know he hasn't done it since but I'm still struggling with trust. We have a child together who I know would hugely struggle with a split.
Can you give me your experiences in a non-judgemental 'why did you stay with him way'? X

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YourWittyJadeJoker · 12/02/2025 06:30

OneMoreVino · 03/03/2019 08:33

I found texts to a prostitute on my ex husbands phone while I was engaged to him. He was working abroad at the time. He completely denied ever meeting her, although the texts led me to believe they did meet in a hotel. He slipped up while drinking and told me he paid her money to leave him alone Hmmas he decided to not go through with it after he met her. He completely retracted that when he was sober and reverted to the old story.I chose to bury my head in the sand, not tell anyone and I married him. Unfortunately for me resentment built up, part of that was due to lack of disclosure on the topic and he wouldn’t talk about it as it was ‘done & dusted’. I started feeling different towards him pretty much after I got married. The wedding plans had distracted me completely and it took over my thoughts. We didn’t have kids though.My advice would be to take some time out to yourself. A lot of time! It’s a lot to process. I don’t think it’s something you’ll ever forget however and if it’s anything like me, it’ll always be in the back of your mind and cast a doubt which will forever be there.It’s the lack of respect he had for me that I found to be the killer and wondering what they did together. Sometimes it’s worth fighting for something, but that’s up to you to decide x

I have the same story pretty much.
I just can’t forget about it. I can forgive him but I just can’t forget. It’s been 5yrs now and it’s constantly in the back of my mind. I want to leave him because of it but I just don’t know how to.
i actually dislike him because of it. He’s punching way above his weight either me and he still did that to me.
I will never ever forget this and one day I will walk away and he will never see me again.
he’s worth millions but it’s the millions that led him to believe he was invincible and could do what ever he wanted because I wouldn’t stray far away from the debit card.
i didn’t leave because I made vows and I love him dearly.
things have changed recently and he’s lost the lot financially we are broke. Maybe not broke in the sense we can’t pay our bills but broke as In there are no millions in the bank accounts anymore, I wanted to leave him when he was absolutely minted but couldn’t do it to him or our family. So now hes struggling and really needs my support I still can’t leave!!!
however, if it was me that was caught cheating on him he would’ve fucked me off straight away and absolutely ridiculed me and made sure I had nothing. And probably replaced me with a younger model short term anyway- I know there is no one on this earth that could put up with living with my husband other than me. I would actually feel sorry for her.
I hate hate hate him for what he did. He has absolutely broke me into a thousand pieces.

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