Talk me out of doing something silly,

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Have name changed for this but I am a regular.

Have been chatting to this guy online, he is married and also knows that i am married. Things started out fine, quite flirty. Now he wants me to go meet him for lunch. If i do meet him am I asking for something more to happen?? I am attracted to him and he has made it very clear that he feels the same. Should I just put him off or meet him but on the understanding that nothing happens.

HELP!!!!!!!

if you think you might be tempted to do more than just eat lunch, i;d steer well clear........depends how strong you can be

playing with fire IMO

Just stop it. Now.

DON'T DO IT - IT WILL ALL END DREADFULLY!

You are going to do it regardless of what anyone says.

Whats to say this manisnot a rapist?

sorry to be blunt, but its true.

Why oh why would you want to go to lunch with a flirty married stranger? Are you having problems in your marriage?

How much do you value your marriage?
If you meet him then it is obv not much.
Are you happy with your husband?Again if you meet this other bloke you can't be that happy and there must be something wrong.
Do you really want to risk this?

oh god please don't
will open a whole can of worms

Well, what do you want from him? Is it innocent or are you thinking of something else?

Invite your dh to join you.

I keep thinking maybe I am reading more into this then there is, maybe i'm trying to make more of it then there actually is. IYKWIM. But then at the same time why cant I have male friends.

you can have male friends

i have male friends

but i would never be afraid to have lunch with them, scared that either of us would make a move.....

and my DH would know if i was having lunch with them, as would their spouse

You can have male friends but and it's a big but you said
'I am attracted to him and he has made it very clear that he feels the same'
Not exactly an innocent comment when YOU ARE BOTH MARRIED!!!!
When you think about telling your dh how do you feel?
If you don't want to tell him then it is obv that you are thinking about more than a friendship with other bloke.
It really does all come down to wether or not it's worth the risk of your marriage being over or not.

Ask yourself what would you think if your dh did a similar thing with a female, given the info you told us in your OP

I would steer well clear, you dont know who he could be, probably some weirdo.

Dont have any further contact with him, you are bound to be more tempted by him.

Would he still want you if you was single??????

Does your dh know that you 'talk' to this bloke?

If so, ask his opinion, if not, why not?

you will end up with either

a) a husband who doesn't respect you
b) a husband you spend the rest of your life deceiving
c) alone
d)a new fella who's with you cos his wife didn't want him
e) a new fella who you love but you may spend the rest of your life wandering if he'll do it to you
f) living happily ever after

who knows what the outcome will be.

the question you need to ask yourself are

are you preapred to risk it?
are you so scared of being alone that you need to meet someone else before you leave your husband?
are you happy in your marriage?
are you just bored or is there another reason for the affair?
whats the worst case scenario and is it worth it?

Like you need an 'answer'.....

My answer to you is - take responsibility for your own actions.

Why are you building up a relationship with this man online? Is your own relationship in trouble?

No, no, no, no, no.

If you are even asking if you should go then you know something deceitful is on the cards.

I only go out with male friends in complete and utter confidence that I am not going to do anything out of my husband's sight that I wouldn't do in front of him. If I felt so attracted to someone else that I thought my resolve even might weaken I would avoid the other person totally.

If you're going to play with fire you can expect not only to get burnt but to burn those you love as well.

DON'T DO IT!

have been in a slightly similar situation myself , but luckily i was 'rescued' by some really good advice from a close friend

it is easy to feel flattered when somebody likes you, BUT you are both married and if there is already an attraction between you then i would steer clear of taking things any further..

hth, xx

HE WILL BE Really ugly

THEN YOULL LOOK LIEK AN utter nork

Step away. it's a bad ides.

Bet he looks like the back end of a bus and chews with his mouth open anyway.

would you tell your hsuband?
how do you know him anyway?

would stop being a slut be good advice?
if you want to sleep with other men then break up with your current other half.