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Anonymous screen shot of instamessage flirtation

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Lefty1 · 25/02/2019 16:58

Hi all, asking for a friend on this one :) so here goes :

my dear friend has been with her boyfriend for just over 8 months. They are very much in love however recently she has received an anonymous message with a screen grab of a flirtatious exchange between her boyfriend and another woman. You can’t see the ID of the user from the screen grab so there is no way of asking the person direct . The messages don’t refer to sex or infer that anything sexual has happened but her boyfriend allegedly , is telling this person how incredible they look and how he would follow her back on Instagram but would get into trouble etc... also asking for her to join him in going to a gym outside of the local area with kisses and all the “😍” emojis thrown in .

My dear friend doesn’t really know what to think and is suspecting the screen grab could have been faked , is this possible ?

Probably a massive drip feed here but there was an overlap between his ex and my friend , he basically chose my friend and dumped the girl he had been with for just over a year.
My friend mentioned that the ex had gave him some abuse when she found out about their relationship (roughly two months after) and sent my friend a very blunt message but nothing since, her boyfriend is swearing blind he didn’t send and thinks it’s something to do with his ex being still bitter.
What do you guys think and what would you do under these circumstances?

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Dextrodependant · 25/02/2019 17:03

I think your friend is about to be overlapped and dumped just like the ex.

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Lefty1 · 25/02/2019 17:14

That’s what I was kind of leaning towards too but as I’ve been cheated on before I thought perhaps I might be bias so I thought I’d ask the masses ....

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Dextrodependant · 25/02/2019 17:16

It could be that his ex is trying to get revenge but I doubt she would have waited this long. Much more likely that he is fishing for his next conquest.

Elodiesflower · 25/02/2019 17:18

Private message or comments on a post?

Because if it’s private message it can only be one of two people, him or the woman he was sending the messages too

lifegoes · 25/02/2019 17:30

If you can't see the person ID at the top their will be their picture at the side of the message. So if it's the girl who has screenshot them you won't see her name or picture just the picture of him at the side of each picture.

Someone could set up a fake account and use his picture. But it's a lot of work to go to.

I think this sounds as if they are from the woman in question. He can't follow her back etc.

Can I ask how they were sent anonymously?

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Lefty1 · 25/02/2019 17:45

Okay so I have attached the screen grab that my friend was sent , the red mark up is against my friends boyfriend.

This screen grab was sent to my friend from an Instagram account that had been set up fresh with no followers or pic. The person simply sent the screen grab with a message saying “I stopped replying after this as I felt bad. I’m doing this anonymously as I don’t want any drama. Sorry x” my friend read the message and within half hour the account was deleted if that makes sense?

Anonymous screen shot of instamessage flirtation

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Drunkatthepetrolstation · 25/02/2019 17:48

That is so obviously from the girl in question, She obviously doesn't think much of him hitting on her when he is involved.

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Lefty1 · 25/02/2019 17:48

Don’t know if there are any instagram experts but does the message “look” real , my friend has heard there are apps that fake messages and wondered if it’s possible to make them look this realistic ? clutching at straws

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MakeLemonade · 25/02/2019 17:50

That doesn’t looked faked, he’s obviously a dirtbag and your pal should move on.

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Lefty1 · 25/02/2019 17:55

To add, his ig username (displayed at the top of the msg exchange) is exactly the same as her boyfriend’s ig name so it doesn’t appear that a fake ig was set up for him...and the pic is also identical to his display pic

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Elodiesflower · 25/02/2019 18:02

Tell your mate to stop clutching at straws

If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck it’s probably a cheating cunt

Rtmhwales · 25/02/2019 18:10

He's trying it on with a new woman. This isn't faked.

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Lefty1 · 25/02/2019 18:13

That’s essentially what I think too, it seems like a stretch for the ex to go to all this trouble after roughly 6 months of silence 🙈

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lifegoes · 25/02/2019 18:14

@Lefty1 so nobody can set up another Instagram account with the SAME Instagram name. So if it's exactly the same it's him

Absolutely no doubt or question about it.

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Lefty1 · 25/02/2019 18:18

@lifegoes thanks , that’s what I’ve said to my friend too. Her boyfriend reckons it’s all been photoshopped...it really doesn’t look it though I don’t think

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NameChangeNugget · 25/02/2019 18:24

His behaviour is indefensible. He clearly couldn’t give a brass razu, about your friend.

Drogosnextwife · 25/02/2019 18:25

Gadz he sounds like a creep just from those messages. Tell her to get rid.

twattymctwatterson · 25/02/2019 18:28

Your friend was the OW and he's lining the next one up. It's not like he's not got form

Thehop · 25/02/2019 18:28

He’s trying to hook up

How you meet someone is how you lose them and all that.

lifegoes · 25/02/2019 18:34

That is not photoshopped @Lefty1 I can guarantee you.

booboo24 · 25/02/2019 18:37

Nope that's real, she's clutching at straws I'm afraid. Does he talk like that?

HappyLife21 · 25/02/2019 18:39

I too recon the woman in the above message isn’t impressed with him and I think it’s her who’s sent your friend the message.

shinyNewPound · 25/02/2019 18:39

Is training and going to the gym something he normally does? If so, he's a player and your friend is being played.

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Lefty1 · 25/02/2019 18:41

Yes my friend has said that he does type like that, for instance he says babe and he doesn’t put apostrophes in his words.

She keeps on saying she can’t believe it as he has pictures of them together all over his IG profile. He used to have his display pic as a pic of them together but changed it about a month ago to just a pic of him , not sure if that adds any relevance .

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Lefty1 · 25/02/2019 18:42

And yes he goes to the gym often , that’s how he met my friend at the local gym .

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