DP Drunk and frightening

[Iamneverfull]

My partner has been out drinking all day. He came back quite jolly and being silly but he's suddenly turned nasty and I'm now feeling quite scared. It started with me eating some left over pizza which he assumed I would leave, he was disappointed it had gone but refused to eat anything. He fell asleep and I knew he would wake up hungry and i felt bad that I ate the pizza so I started making him something. He woke up is so drunk that he thinks I've left the oven on for half an hour and forgotten, he has been aggressively shouting how he didn't want anything and how I could have blown up the house. He's still shouting and talking to himself. I'm in my daughters room and he keeps coming in shouting still. I feel sick and shaky. I don't know what to do, he won't calm down and I've been here before a few years ago and it went on until the early hours of the morning.

Ask him if he wants you to go with him maybe it would be a good thing if you went and maybe eave the surgery after you have spoken to the Dr or something it is good he made the appointment though.

Yes, go with him if he's ok with that - you will be able to give your perspective too which will help with a diagnosis.
I'm sorry you both are going through this, and I know how tough it can be, but you also need to take care of yourself, otherwise you will not be able to support him too.

Thats good to hear he is going to the GP. GPs however are not experts and I would advise you go with him to the appointment to explain some of the behaviours that are causing concern and push for a referral to the local mental health team for an assessment. Your OH may not be in a position to fully outline the issues. For a GP to make a decision on where to refer to next they need all the info

If he lets you it would be good if you were able to explain to the GP the full extent as he likely would either minimise or possibly just doesn't remember?

People get confused on the confidentiality thing.

They can't tell you anything without his permission but you can tell them information which is relevant and helpful

And remember however much you want to help him YOU have to be and feel safe too

Thank you, I will ask him. I think he will probably want me to go with him.

It's essential you go as you can give your account of what happened when he was out of it. If he doesn't want you to go with him, consider going to see the same gp on your own but about him.