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Is this a crazy reason to be put off?!

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user3910 · 21/02/2019 20:35

He’s great so far...we’ve only been texting and one phone call after meeting online a week ago. First date this weekend. But..here goes..

I don’t like his name or his accent!

Stupid reason to be put off?

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Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 21/02/2019 20:38

In bed neither will matter op!!
Wink

RelaisBlu · 21/02/2019 20:40

If the relationship goes well and you become fond of him, you may find you like the name & accent more....

Honeyroar · 21/02/2019 20:43

I don't like my husband's name, but he's still the most wonderful man I've ever met...

I'd meet him, see if there is any chemistry and go from there.

RagingWhoreBag · 21/02/2019 20:43

I rarely use my DP’s name and everyone else calls him by a short version of it. If it reminds you of someone else then you’ll soon start to associate it with him instead. Or you can just use a nickname of your own.

As for the accent, I find some sexier than others for sure, but if you fall for him you’ll soon get comfortable with him.

Give it a go - silly reasons not to at least have a few dates. If you still find both offputting then he’s clearly not meant for you.

RoseOfSharyn · 21/02/2019 20:56

Depends why you dislike the name I suppose. My name is a unisex name, along the lines of Jo/Joe. So I could never date someone with that name.

I do, however, know a couple called Vicky and Ricky who are very happy.

Accents grow on you. I used t o hate Welsh accents till I became great friends with a Welsh person. Now I find it endearing and familiar.

Hellohappiness · 21/02/2019 21:08

I know what you mean. A name can put you off. Sometimes though when you get to know someone, it doesn’t matter.

Eattothebeat · 21/02/2019 21:09

I know exactly what you mean re names and accents but if he ticks all the other boxes then I could live with it. What sort of accent is it out of interest?

Alison100199 · 21/02/2019 21:21

I ditched someone after a few dates once because of their accent. Call me shallow but I couldn't see past it and it turned me off him. So I do understand OP. Name wise, you'd probably get used to it. Accent not.

Seeleyboo · 21/02/2019 21:52

Come one OP, what's his name.

GroggyLegs · 21/02/2019 21:59

You know they're stupid reasons OP - he can't help the name he was given, nor where he's grown up. Unless he's putting the accent on, which would be weird and a very GOOD reason to be put off 😂

But also you can't help your turn offs.

It's a Birmingham accent isnt it? It's ALWAYS Birmingham accents on here.

Original poster
user3910 · 21/02/2019 22:00

I’m going to sound like an idiot now but it’s basically not an accent you’d put with his job!!

The name reminds me of someone really bloody stupid and unattractive from school. it’s also a shit name

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RoseOfSharyn · 21/02/2019 22:00

@Seeleyboo I'm guessing Malcolm, Gary, Stanley, Kevin, Gordon or Ernie. Grin

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user3910 · 21/02/2019 22:02

Not bham!

It just makes him sound a bit thick but he can’t be as he’s a consultant doctor and high up. But I’ve never met a doctor with this accent!

God it does sound silly written down.

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LellyMcKelly · 21/02/2019 22:08

I know what you mean. I once went on a date with a guy who had the same accent as a boss I loathed. No matter how interesting or funny he was in his texts, I just couldn’t get past it!

Monty27 · 21/02/2019 22:10

Clearly you aren't attracted to him. Next question?

BlueMerchant · 21/02/2019 22:14

I would give him a chance.I'd have to meet him first then decide. If he has a great personality and you like him his name won't matter and his accent may grow on you or just be minor irritation!?!

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user3910 · 21/02/2019 22:15

The second call we had the accent was less of an issue.

I don’t think I could ever call him by his name Grin

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Parthenope · 21/02/2019 22:17

It just makes him sound a bit thick but he can’t be as he’s a consultant doctor and high up. But I’ve never met a doctor with this accent!

Unpick this. You seem to be saying he's got a working-class regional accent of some kind, and that this codes for you as 'too thick to be a medic'. Hmm

RoseOfSharyn · 21/02/2019 22:19

Kenny, Kyle, Bart, Chad....am I close? Grin

RoseOfSharyn · 21/02/2019 22:21

Is he a geordie?

Seeleyboo · 21/02/2019 22:30

Such snobbery. Seriously. Call him babe or love or twat but don't ditch on a name. Colin, Col, Darren, D, etc. Not saying either name is bad. I'm Caroline or Caz or Carol or Car and more recently C and oddly B

E20mom · 21/02/2019 22:34

I don't like my OH's name but it's not his fault, he didn't choose it, I just use a nickname and always have done.

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user3910 · 21/02/2019 22:35

No not a Geordie. But yeah it’s woeking class I guess. I don’t want to be snobby, guess I just find it unusual!

The name I agree can always be changed to a nickname

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Livid21 · 21/02/2019 22:35

I once ditched a guy mainly because he held his knife like a pencil. Give him a second date just to make sure, but it’s probably a sign you’re not compatible.

BlueMerchant · 21/02/2019 22:45

Find some successful, famous and good lucking men who share his name. You may change how you view it.

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