Do you truly respect your dh/ dp?

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Because I'm not sure that I do - could it be that I am falling out of love?

MB - yes, if you manage to overcome the issues that your partner has brought with him, it will make your relationship much stronger .

Very hard, this intrusive in-law business. I keep my parents-out-of-law at arms' length, but my partner's ex doesn't, so it means my stepsons come under the influence of grandparents far too often for their own good... and ours

Yep, although the worry is with house prices the way they are, will the children actually leave?

1+1, I'm already on the Primelocation website, seeing what we can afford to buy for ds (almost 13).

mumblechum, don't bother with a child trust fund. Buy a house and move them out at ....15

13, if they cook lasagen.

Ok, have just finished on primelocation. Minimum £350k to buy him something which he wouldn't want to hang himself in......

mumblechum - buy in France, much cheaper now but with any luck the Sarkozy effect will get the economy going and house prices will rise a lot here between now and the time your DS needs his own roof

Mmm, it's quite tempting to think of him being a few hundred miles away......

Cheap and far then - double whammy

I think I feel more resentment than lack of respect. There are things that you simply just have to do in a relationship and get on with it but sometimes he is really childish about certain things and it really pisses me right off.

Yes. As a 17yo he was startlingly clever and very funny in a dry way; he still is but, now he's 40-something, it's the loyalty, integrity and compassion that I respect. Beyond that I defy anyone not to respect a man who has shown such humour, determination and lack of self-pity as he has slowly dwindled from a superb squash player, skier and mountain runner to being wheelchair bound.

BTW it's not all gloom and doom on the wheelchair front as the dwindling has halted in the last year or two [everythingcrossed emoticon] and yesterday we tried out this: www.moltenrock.co.uk/Products/prod_index.htm A sort of Landrover Discovery of wheelchairs. It'll be delivered in three weeks or so and then we'll be storming the South Downs and making up for close to a decade of confinement to paved paths and poxy parks. There are only a couple of these around in the country, so if you see us, you'll know it's us!

Yes I have a huge amount of respect for my DW. Not only has she put up with me for 12 years of marriage but has also produced 2 wonderful children for me that at the time she wasn't entirely sure she wanted - that's some sacrifice to make!

Mind you I am now gutted as she has posted below and although she totally respects me, does not think that I am perfect.... Will now have to console myself with chocolate (which out of respect/devotion I will save half of for her!).

Yes - my boyfriend is the centre of my world him and bubba

he is intelliigent,funny,compassionate,passionate,all round great dad and boyfriend i just love 'im to bits - aww im all slushy now

the kind of man i always wanted to have baby with

Oh . I honestly can't say that I feel all gushy and totally in love like some of the others on this thread. I wish I did but I just don't. Maybe I don't respect him enough after all

I don't think that 'gushiness' and 'totally in love' is necessary for respect. In fact, I think they are very different. Respect is more grounded, deeper and can include a clear-sighted recognition of weaknesses and failings.

Eeek justadad, are you my husband??

[shiny immediately finds another parenting forum]

Yeah, who does justadad belong to?

He's mine, mine, all mine!!!

Although clearly he belongs to no-one but himself IYSWIM

I do change my name quite frequently to keep him on his toes, though. He's a star - reminded me this morning to check online for the sale-that-must-not-be-named, with a suggestion to find myself something nice.

But seriously, I don't think respect is about 'gushy' lurve, more quiet knowledge, acceptance, contentment, that sort of thing. - Contentment with each other, not necessary whatever life is throwing at you both.

Intellectual respect also important for me, always has been.
Will now stop waffling.

Oh dear, I've killed this thread then....

I never really discuss my dh on here, but yes I do.

know exactly what you mean everychoc, am in the same boat. Am desperately hoping that respect will come back. Want us all to stay a family - ds adores dp - but don't how long I can go on like this.....